Hi I have been asking for 13 months for help with my granddaughter she's missing reported numerous occasions hitting her sister swearing at us I have asked them to take her
I have now contacted solicitors and family law I can no longer keep her safe she is doing as she wants when she wants accusing my husband of hitting her this as gone on long enough and al her social worker says is my manger said no to everything I am asking you now to take her she's hitting us hitting her sister doing what she likes when she likes with who she feels is a friend this is not happening any longer if u don't find her she will become a threat to herself
I am leaving the marital home as it's no longer worth risking my health due to her attitude and behaviour so unfortunately been told my husband cant be left with her due to allegations so you have given me no choice but to leave
Hope this gets through to everyone she's assaulted my husband today slapped I
Him in front of my granddaughter grandson hit sibling to the point of making her scream in pain and you all think it's a joke I have contacted solicitors due to this as you all think she's an angel and she's not no amount of work will help with her so I have had no choice but to take sibling and me away from this environment leaves granddaughter with husband and as your letter says she's not allowed in supervised contact well tough u made this decision Monday yourself hope your happy and I am going to the MP
They say they can't take her because we have SGO
Sgo
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: Sgo
Dear Nannainneed
Welcome to the parents’ board. Thank you for your post. My name is Suzie. I am Family Rights Group’s online adviser. Please note that my response will include hyperlinks (written in bold letters and underlined) which you can click on to access more detailed information.
I am so sorry to read about how incredibly difficult, exhausting, and stressful things are for you and your family right now. It is a positive step that you are reaching out for help and support during such a painful time.
You are currently caring for your granddaughter under a Special Guardianship Order (SGO). You are facing extreme distress due to severe behavioural challenges, violence towards family members, and false allegations, which have now forced you to temporarily leave the home with your other grandchild to protect everyone's health and safety. You feel completely unsupported by children’s services, who have turned down your requests for help and accommodation on the basis that an SGO is in place, leaving you feeling like you have no choice but to seek legal advice and contact your MP.
Before advising further, I would like to clarify our role. Family Rights Group is an independent charity providing free advice to families. We are not connected to any Local Authority or children’s services, we cannot investigate individual children’s circumstances, and we are unable to contact or liaise with your granddaughter's social worker on your behalf.
Because we cannot take direct action, ensure your granddaughter is safe or arrange alternative accommodation for her, I strongly urge you to contact your granddaughter’s social worker or their team manager directly as soon as possible to report the current situation and raise your safety concerns so they can be formally considered and acted upon.
While we cannot step in directly, we can advise you on your rights, the duties children's services have towards your granddaughter and your family as a whole, and your legal options.
Local authorities have a statutory duty to support special guardians and safeguard children. If they refuse to provide SGO support services or assist when a placement is at risk of breaking down, we can guide you on how to make a formal complaint to the local authority or escalate your concerns through senior management and your local MP.
Under an SGO, you hold parental responsibility. However, if a placement has completely broken down, you or the local authority can apply to the court to discharge (end) the Special Guardianship Order.
If you wish for the special guardianship order to be brought to an end (‘discharged’) then you will need to apply to the Family Court. If the court agrees that it is in the best interests for your granddaughter and that there has been a ‘significant change in circumstances’ since the special guardianship order was made, then they can discharge the order. This would mean you would no longer hold any parental responsibility for your granddaughter. If you would like any advice or guidance about making an application to court to discharge the special guardianship order then I would suggest that you seek legal advice from a solicitor, or from the following organisations:
1) Child Law Advice
2) Support Through Court
3) Advice Now
The local authority also has the power to accommodate a child under Section 20 of the Children Act 1989 if a family is in crisis, regardless of whether an SGO is in place. We can explain this further and how to work with the social worker regarding this process.
Given the urgent nature of what you are going through, it may be very helpful to speak to one of our specialist advisers directly. You can call our free and confidential helpline on 0808 801 0366 (open Monday to Friday, 9:30am – 3:00pm).
If you prefer to continue getting advice online, I would like to invite you to post on our Kinship Carers’ Forum in the future (rather than here on the Parents' Forum).
The Kinship Carers' forum is specifically designed for family members caring for children who cannot live with their parents. Posting there will give you access to tailored advice as well as practical, compassionate insights from other kinship carers who have navigated similar challenges.
You can view the Kinship carers' forum here: Kinship carers’ Forum
Unfortunately, the two forums are independent of each other, so you would have to register for the kinship carers’ forum separately.
Please do take care, make contact with your granddaughter’s social worker and their team manager urgently and do consider reaching out to our telephone adviceline so we can talk you through your options in more detail.
Best wishes
Suzie
Welcome to the parents’ board. Thank you for your post. My name is Suzie. I am Family Rights Group’s online adviser. Please note that my response will include hyperlinks (written in bold letters and underlined) which you can click on to access more detailed information.
I am so sorry to read about how incredibly difficult, exhausting, and stressful things are for you and your family right now. It is a positive step that you are reaching out for help and support during such a painful time.
You are currently caring for your granddaughter under a Special Guardianship Order (SGO). You are facing extreme distress due to severe behavioural challenges, violence towards family members, and false allegations, which have now forced you to temporarily leave the home with your other grandchild to protect everyone's health and safety. You feel completely unsupported by children’s services, who have turned down your requests for help and accommodation on the basis that an SGO is in place, leaving you feeling like you have no choice but to seek legal advice and contact your MP.
Before advising further, I would like to clarify our role. Family Rights Group is an independent charity providing free advice to families. We are not connected to any Local Authority or children’s services, we cannot investigate individual children’s circumstances, and we are unable to contact or liaise with your granddaughter's social worker on your behalf.
Because we cannot take direct action, ensure your granddaughter is safe or arrange alternative accommodation for her, I strongly urge you to contact your granddaughter’s social worker or their team manager directly as soon as possible to report the current situation and raise your safety concerns so they can be formally considered and acted upon.
While we cannot step in directly, we can advise you on your rights, the duties children's services have towards your granddaughter and your family as a whole, and your legal options.
Local authorities have a statutory duty to support special guardians and safeguard children. If they refuse to provide SGO support services or assist when a placement is at risk of breaking down, we can guide you on how to make a formal complaint to the local authority or escalate your concerns through senior management and your local MP.
Under an SGO, you hold parental responsibility. However, if a placement has completely broken down, you or the local authority can apply to the court to discharge (end) the Special Guardianship Order.
If you wish for the special guardianship order to be brought to an end (‘discharged’) then you will need to apply to the Family Court. If the court agrees that it is in the best interests for your granddaughter and that there has been a ‘significant change in circumstances’ since the special guardianship order was made, then they can discharge the order. This would mean you would no longer hold any parental responsibility for your granddaughter. If you would like any advice or guidance about making an application to court to discharge the special guardianship order then I would suggest that you seek legal advice from a solicitor, or from the following organisations:
1) Child Law Advice
2) Support Through Court
3) Advice Now
The local authority also has the power to accommodate a child under Section 20 of the Children Act 1989 if a family is in crisis, regardless of whether an SGO is in place. We can explain this further and how to work with the social worker regarding this process.
Given the urgent nature of what you are going through, it may be very helpful to speak to one of our specialist advisers directly. You can call our free and confidential helpline on 0808 801 0366 (open Monday to Friday, 9:30am – 3:00pm).
If you prefer to continue getting advice online, I would like to invite you to post on our Kinship Carers’ Forum in the future (rather than here on the Parents' Forum).
The Kinship Carers' forum is specifically designed for family members caring for children who cannot live with their parents. Posting there will give you access to tailored advice as well as practical, compassionate insights from other kinship carers who have navigated similar challenges.
You can view the Kinship carers' forum here: Kinship carers’ Forum
Unfortunately, the two forums are independent of each other, so you would have to register for the kinship carers’ forum separately.
Please do take care, make contact with your granddaughter’s social worker and their team manager urgently and do consider reaching out to our telephone adviceline so we can talk you through your options in more detail.
Best wishes
Suzie
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