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Hi, bit of a long story. My children were put on the child protection register in August 2022 due to me & him arguing a police call outs. My partner was sent to prison for 4 months (he definatly needed this sentence) We have been through PLO but come out of that. We’ve botj done parent assessments, I’ve done an own my life programme my partner has done a BBR course (ordered by court) eveything the social have asked of us we’ve done. He’s be back home for 3 weeks now an we’re we’re due to come off child protection on August 6th but he has got into a bit of bother again but through no fault of his own. A 37 year old woman an her daughter 16 have been harassing me for weeks! I’ve phoned the police Everytime to b told the can’t do anything! When walking home from school 1 day with my 2 sons an daughter the 16 year old was in a bus stop I think waiting for me an things got a bit heated, my partner was carrying my son an she has thrown a can of monster energy drink at my partner but it’s hit my 6 year old son!! So my partner puts him down a grabs the girl a moves her out the way so me & the children could get out of the way. She was acting so crazy! Her & her mother are known for taking drugs an drinking together the mother has 2 other small children who basically fend for them selves. Anyway the 16 year old has said my partner has strangled her! He didn’t! I was the 1 to phone the police there aj then! So skip to 3 weeks later my partner gets taken in for question while he was away that day the social worker came around an said infront of my children that their dad wouldn’t b allowed to return to the family home even tho none of us new what was happening weather he would get out on bail or not, my kids were DEVISTATED! he’s worked SO hard to get where he is he doesn’t drink and does regular drug tests with his probation officer. When my parter came home he was allowed back home an the bail conditions were not to go her street which is obvious. I just don’t understand how someone’s job it is is to ‘protect’ an have the child’s ‘best interests’ at heart could tell children this when she didn’t have facts! He hasn’t been charged with anything! He has to go an answer bail

Dear Ghsgyeuj

Welcome to the parents’ discussion board. Thank you for your post. My name is Suzie. I am Family Rights Group’s online adviser.

I am sorry to hear about your difficult family circumstances. You have provided helpful background information about your partner’s conviction for domestic abuse. This led to children’s services involvement including a child protection plan and a PLO process. You describe the work that you have both done to address the concerns. Your partner is continuing to engage with his probation officer too. You were hoping that the child protection plan was due to end.

There is a child protection conference due today, 6th August. However, recently your partner was involved in an altercation with a woman and her 16-year-old daughter who you explain have been harassing you. During the altercation, you say that your partner grabbed the young person to move her out of the way. She has alleged that he strangled her. He was bailed and the bail conditions did not prevent him returning home but obviously prohibited him from going near the young person’s home.

As your partner is alleged to have assaulted a child, children’s services are concerned for your children. You are unhappy that the social worker told the children that their father would not be allowed to return home, without knowing the bail conditions. It may be that the social worker was not referring to what the bail conditions would say but was making a recommendation from children’s services’ perspective that your partner remains outside the home while they assess the situation further. Their concern will be for your children in view of the allegation against their father. As you are unhappy with how they spoke with you and your children though you can raise your concern about this with their manager initially.

Your partner can seek legal advice from a criminal solicitor about the police investigation and the bail conditions.

At today’s conference, a decision will be made about whether the child protection plan for your children should continue or not. Despite the progress made, there is this new concern to be addressed. As you will know the outcome today, I will not speculate on what that will be. However, I would suggest that you and your partner cooperate with any reasonable recommendations made by children’s services and ensure that you prioritise them remaining in your care. Your partner’s probation office may attend the meeting and should be able to provide information about the recent incident. Children’s services may ask your partner not to live in the family home, for now.

You may well have further questions following the conference. We can provide further advice if children’s services In England are involved. Unfortunately, we cannot provide any detailed advice to families who have social work involvement from children’s services in other UK countries as this is outside our remit. So, I am attaching a link here to other advice and information services that may be able to help you more.

I hope this is helpful.

Best wishes

Suzie