Daughter has become my abuser
Posted: Wed Nov 12, 2025 1:54 pm
In 2020, I fled domestic violence and SS put the children on a CP plan.
My 15-year-old daughter is very manipulative and constantly hurts my 9-year-old son by throwing chairs and hitting him. She also mentally abuses him by making snide and hurtful comments to him about him not having a dad as he is abusive and we had a restraining order. She has poor mental health and has overdosed multiple times, most recently in August, which was very bad. She took my prescription pain medication for where I broke my back and laughed when I told her I had none left to take for pain. When asked why she had done it this time, she said, “The quickest way to hurt you is to hurt myself.”
Shortly after, she disclosed to CAMHS that her ex-stepdad (the DV perpetrator) had sexually assaulted her, she told them it happened, she wont talk to anyone about what happened and doesnt want to go to the police. SS became involved recently because of her poor mental health and the fact that they found out some history of my current partner. My son has also referred to him as dad on a few occasions, even though we’ve only been together since May.
We had an assessment and then the social worker put in a section 47. We had conference on Monday which was horrible as I had 8 professionals all telling me im a bad mom. The children were put on a CP plan.
My partner’s criminal history isn’t great, but he’s done his time in jail and is a different person now. His ex has reported abuse and sexual assault from him, but only four months into our relationship when her friend saw us together, she also called and laughed, saying, “Good luck, I’m going to ruin your life.” Because he didn’t want to get back together, she stalks me (reported to the police) and makes fake profiles on social media to request him. I almost every other day.
Lastnight i seen the gp as my son had blood in his stools, he had cows milk protein allergy and his happens with reactions. The Dr made it seem like this was requested due to my partner possibly doing something sinister. This has made me feel so sick as nothing like that was discussed in the meeting and niithing would ever happen like that!!
This is all very draining. My son is battling with the change of me being told that my partner isn’t allowed around the kids because he has a good bond with my son. It’s affecting me so much that my hair has been falling out, my eyes are swelling (this has happened in the past due to stress), and I don’t know what I can do. I want my daughter to get help, but I can’t have her living with me. It’s too hard. The constant shouting and risky behaviour - recently got a tattoo and also smokes weed, which I’ve tried to get help for but she doesn’t want it. She doesn’t attend school, plays the mental health card, and I’ve lied to everyone about how she’s been behind closed doors for so long. My partner has helped me to show me that she’s abusing me, which my family all say when they see the way she is with me and her brother. I need to protect my son from further exposure of this abuse. I also have had to ask my partner to stay at his brother’s at night, and this is all a strain on us, and hard as he is a massive support for me and I just feel lost with what to do now.
My 15-year-old daughter is very manipulative and constantly hurts my 9-year-old son by throwing chairs and hitting him. She also mentally abuses him by making snide and hurtful comments to him about him not having a dad as he is abusive and we had a restraining order. She has poor mental health and has overdosed multiple times, most recently in August, which was very bad. She took my prescription pain medication for where I broke my back and laughed when I told her I had none left to take for pain. When asked why she had done it this time, she said, “The quickest way to hurt you is to hurt myself.”
Shortly after, she disclosed to CAMHS that her ex-stepdad (the DV perpetrator) had sexually assaulted her, she told them it happened, she wont talk to anyone about what happened and doesnt want to go to the police. SS became involved recently because of her poor mental health and the fact that they found out some history of my current partner. My son has also referred to him as dad on a few occasions, even though we’ve only been together since May.
We had an assessment and then the social worker put in a section 47. We had conference on Monday which was horrible as I had 8 professionals all telling me im a bad mom. The children were put on a CP plan.
My partner’s criminal history isn’t great, but he’s done his time in jail and is a different person now. His ex has reported abuse and sexual assault from him, but only four months into our relationship when her friend saw us together, she also called and laughed, saying, “Good luck, I’m going to ruin your life.” Because he didn’t want to get back together, she stalks me (reported to the police) and makes fake profiles on social media to request him. I almost every other day.
Lastnight i seen the gp as my son had blood in his stools, he had cows milk protein allergy and his happens with reactions. The Dr made it seem like this was requested due to my partner possibly doing something sinister. This has made me feel so sick as nothing like that was discussed in the meeting and niithing would ever happen like that!!
This is all very draining. My son is battling with the change of me being told that my partner isn’t allowed around the kids because he has a good bond with my son. It’s affecting me so much that my hair has been falling out, my eyes are swelling (this has happened in the past due to stress), and I don’t know what I can do. I want my daughter to get help, but I can’t have her living with me. It’s too hard. The constant shouting and risky behaviour - recently got a tattoo and also smokes weed, which I’ve tried to get help for but she doesn’t want it. She doesn’t attend school, plays the mental health card, and I’ve lied to everyone about how she’s been behind closed doors for so long. My partner has helped me to show me that she’s abusing me, which my family all say when they see the way she is with me and her brother. I need to protect my son from further exposure of this abuse. I also have had to ask my partner to stay at his brother’s at night, and this is all a strain on us, and hard as he is a massive support for me and I just feel lost with what to do now.