Family Rights Group | Parents’ Forum

My children were adopted and are now adults. Can their adoptive family stop me from seeing them. I am going through an adoption intermediary but the social worker is not supporting me, she is on the side of the adoptive family agreeing with them without questioning their facts. The adoptive family are saying that my children don't want to see me as they are happy and content in their adoptive family. Weeks later it comes out that my children can't have contact as they have varying developmental needs, don't have capacity and have high needs which they provide as they know the children very well as they have lived with them since they were 4 and 2 years old. The social worker hasn't spoken to my children who are adults in their 20s to understand the situation. Social worker is just speaking to their family who have always been opposed to contact. Social worker is not making any effort to make contact happen and supporting my request. The family are saying no and social worker is agreeing with it without getting any evidence or proof that this is what my children want. She hasn't seen or spoken to my children. If she were to see them maybe she could get an idea of the situation. The social worker has told me that she has requested documentation for proof of no capacity, high needs and developmental needs. Personally I don't buy this as I had the opportunity to see my children a few times 8 years ago when they 13 years old and they didn't display as having these needs. There were some needs which I would say were more developmental trauma and a slight speech and language delay but not severe disabilities as the adoptive family are saying. Things don't change from one moment to the next. The social worker also told me that when she gets the assessment she won't be able to tell me the nature of their needs. I understand there is confidentiality reasons but am I right in saying as their biological mother I am allowed to know the outcome of not having capacity and how contact might affect them. Anyway 3 months have past and no information has been shared to the social worker by the adoptive family to back up their claim. I'm just wondering what are my rights and do I have the rights to make a complaint to the intermediary agency dealing with my case. Also can I request a meeting to discuss my children's best interest to discuss about contact with biological siblings, identity, heritage and their developmental/emotional needs. Also. when the social worker sent a letter to the adoptive family saying that a birth family member is requesting contact she wouldn't allow me to see her letter. Is this right?