Going for SGO~Judge insistent on Mediation?

[Buddhabelly]

Hope someone has some advice. This is my first post and I hope it's in the right place. This is VERY long and for that i apologise.

I have had my two neices living with my for the last four years on a full care order. I applied for an SGO last August and we are in the process of doing assessments.

Mum took LA to court to revoke the care order but in the end decided to revoke her application. She does this on a regular basis. During her time in court the judge suggested that she and I should have mediation because we do not speak and her children do not want to see her.
The judge has made it clear that he is dissapointed with my decision not to agree to have mediation and that should my SGO come before him it would be refused on the grounds that i will not have mediation.

Four years ago when the children first came into my care i asked for mediation but it was refused by the LA.

My "family" (Sister, Mum,Aunt and cousins) then waged a campaign against me and my then 15 year old daughter. We had to move house, change jobs, Schools etc. A copy of the kinship carers assesment was given to my sister with all my details on it , my employers, my references etc. My sister photocopied it and passed it around the family. Everyone in that assesment was telephoned and abused including the Independent assessor. My daughter was stalked it was a horrible time. My sister persistently broke the rules in "supervised" contact. She whispered to the children, threatened them told the lies about me etc etc. The older one stopped going, she used to wet herself at contact and had to be "forced " into the car. Now the younger one has stopped going because of mums whispering.. I have tried to encourage them but they won't go.
So I have no contact with any of my family and i will be keeping it that way.

I am adopting a baby and I do not want any of my family to have any contact with her, My daughter (now 20) wants nothing to do with my family and my neices feel the same.

Can the court insist i have mediation? If they can them there will be no SGO.

[Buddhabelly]

There is no way I would agree to mediation. The SW for the child I am adopting (18 months) has agreed that they are a danger and not to have any contact with her. She is fostered by me at the moment. The two i wanted the SGO for are 9 & 15. The thought of seeing their mum makes one of them wet and one of them soil themselves.
I have stated that all personal information must Not be passed to her and still it has happened twice and we have had to either change telephone numbers or move house (which quite frankly costs me a fortune) The judge knows the history (well if he had read the file he would) and it was noted that my sister has been held in comtempt for her actions toward my daughter.

The SW for the child i am adopting would be prepared to write a report for the court, my fostering officer is prepared to write a report stating what has happend in the past as is the independent SW who did the assesment and was also threatened by them....

Mediation will not help..she will agree to anything in the meeting but will go against it when we leave.
I do not trust her and I never will.