Need advice

[Rednight]

Hi I'm currently having trouble with the mother of my child. I have parental right order and contact order in place for my child. Unfortunately I am near a break down due to the mother of my child. She has lied to courts about her partner being ok being around kids only 2 weeks ago social serves ring saying that they have been involved in a domestic abuse case where two of her kids have seen this happen. Then I have listen to my daughter say she seen him hit her. Last Friday I had picked her up where I had to do a nit check with finding about 70 of them. This is not the first time I have had to do this is the last 2 months I do it 6 times. When I told my daughter mum I got back aggressive messages saying it is my home and it's not her fault. Sunday came and was met with aggressive texts again from her mum saying I will be keeping my daughter till 3 since I didn't pick her up till 3 on Friday. When court or is 3 PM friday and 1 PM Sunday. This is not the first time she has been horrible and I have had enough I'm at breaking point. I can't keep doing this and watching my daughter be in the middle so I have said I will not be picking my daughter up which has been so hard and is killing me. My daughter mum has said she will take me to court. And need advice on what I can do.

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Rednight

Thank you for your post and welcome to the parents’ discussion forum.

I am Suzie, online adviser at Family Rights Group.

From your post it appears that you have concerns about the environment in which your daughter is living with her mother. If children services are involved with the family what action are they taking regarding the children and safeguarding if there is domestic violence issues in the mother’s relationship with her partner.

Regarding the concerns for your daughter’s wellbeing in her mother’s home, I suggest you put them in writing to children’s services (the new name for social services) and ask them to let you know how your daughter is to be kept safe.

Our advice sheets:
Family support
Child protection procedures will provide you with information about what children’s services could do regarding the abuse in the mother’s relationship.

You say you have a parental responsibility order and an order for contact. If the mother is not adhering to the order for contact then you have the option of taking the matter back to court. Refusing to have your daughter for contact is not, I do think, putting her needs first. She may be upset at not having contact with you.

Alternatively, you could consider whether you wish to have our daughter in your care full time.

As the issue with contact is a private law matter, if you do not have a solicitor, you may wish to contact Child Law Advice on 0300 330 5480 for advice should you want to take the matter to court.

If there are issues relating to children’s services that you wish further advice on then you can telephone our advice line to speak to an adviser about it. The advice line is open from 930am to 3pm Monday to Friday.

I hope you find this helpful.

Best wishes

Suzie