Advice

[Hello kitty]

Can social worker and the chair stop me having my boyfriend at my home and anyone else and stop my kids from being in a room on there own with there nan and that I have to take my kids toilet with me there 7 years and 5 years old and if they won't I can't go toilet kids are not aloud to have contact with anyone please help

[Questioning19]

Hi Hello Kitty,

Yes, they can impose any kind of restriction when it comes to contact. What did they say exactly? It seems unreasonable and impossible for your children to only have contact with you. Aren't other family members allowed contact as well?

I am subjected to something similar and I know how absurd it is. What I suggest is that when you have to leave the room you send the children to a different room by themselves for 2 minutes etc to use the bathroom, or ask the person who is not allowed unsupervised contact with them to leave the room or the house for that length of time. I know how humiliating and frustrating it is to live like this. I personally cope by sending a tiny curse to those who have mandated this, each and every time we have to behave unnaturally in our home because of them. Hopefully you'll be out of this situation soon.

Have you sought legal advice?

All the best.

[Hello kitty]

They basically said that I wasn't to leave my kids in the same room as my mum unless I'm there I can't go toilet without my kids present if kids don't go toilet with me then I can't go its because of this child protection my son has issues and says things that isn't true and family members causing trouble so now I can't have no contact with anyone when I have my kids and allso they stopped me seeing my boyfriend when have the kids so there just concerned of kids safety when there's nothing wrong I thing the system is wrong for punishing me for nothing its crazy

[Hello kitty]

Yes been citizens advice bureau I have appointment to see a solicitor next month I have a hearing with the chair and social and support worker in 3 months I just hate being in this situation when my kids are safe in no harm what's so ever apart from harm to each other but there just kids they hit each other but not as bad now a days I spoke to doctors but they just said do I thing kids in any harm and if I have concerns to contact them which there isn't

[Questioning19]

Does your mum live in the same house as you and the children? If so is it possible for her to leave the house for 2 minutes when you need to use the bathroom? I know how this sounds; it is insane but I've had to do this repeatedly when there was just one more adult there and they had to use the toilet. I know it feels horrible.

I hope your solicitor sorts it out as this is no humane arrangement to impose on anyone.

[Hello kitty]

No luckly I have my own flat which I'm fighting to get a house I just can't stop the kids seeing my mum its killing her as it is the whole family is upset about it

[Hello kitty]

Its stupid how the system works especially when we are all inocent I hope your getting it sorted its no good for us allso the kids especially my mum she helped me bring up my kids as was living with her at the time I've only had my own place just over a year now

[Questioning19]

I'm really sorry if I upset you in any way; I was just trying to provide some moral support as I'm going through the same BS and know how it feels. There is nothing you can do but go through the system and jump through their hoops. If you don't things will only get worse.

They don't have a conscience and don't care how difficult it is for people and the strain it puts on their lives. They also don't care if you are all innocent. There will be no apology when it's all over regardless of the damage. So unless you play their game, as despicable as it is, you can't get out of it. You cannot appeal to their common sense or compassion because there isn't any. I know it's hard to accept that these sociopaths are given so much power but that's how it is.

This is very unfair on your mother and they are stressing out your entire family. They do this to every family they target in this manner. People lose their jobs, their income, their homes etc, because of their normal life arrangements being upturned.

All you can do is stay strong and fight them legally, and manage your life as well as you can in the meantime.
Remember that if you give into despair they win.

All the best.

[Hello kitty]

Hi no of course you haven't up set me i find your comments very helpful to be honest and its nice knowing I'm not the only one that there doing it too I will find out more in 2 and half months at the conference just so enjoying I'm trying to get on with it but same time its a struggle but hopefully we will get there in the end and they leave us alone we don't need it especially if us parents have done nothing than trying our best with the children like you said we should be strong for the childrens sake

[Hello kitty]

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