Husband arrested for talking to a minor

[Hope7456]

Hi my husband was arrested Tuesday for talking to a minor and bailed the same day we now have to have an assessment with social services and at the moment he's not aloud to live at home or see or talk to the kids till the assessment is done. Obviously this all came a shock to me . Is this standard practice? Also can anyone talk me through the process of it all as the police and social services haven't been helpful at all they have taken devices from my home but apart from his phone the rest of the stuff is mine and only I use them according to my husband he hasn't yet seen any evidence of the allegations and has said he was speaking to someone but they didn't state their age.
Everyone keeps telling me I shouldn't let him see the kids or have him back but I can't even about me and him at the moment I'm so confused atm just trying to make sense of it all thanks

[PerfectlySafeDad]

I presume he must have some prior conviction/bail conditions or else, as far as I've heard, it is not yet a crime in this country to merely 'talk to minor' (but the way we are going, it will be).

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Hope7456,

Welcome to the Parents Forum and I am sorry for the delay in responding to your post.

When you posted, your husband had just been arrested for an online grooming offence and while this is being investigated by the police, children services had asked him to leave the family home and he was not allowed any contact with your children. All the computer devices in the home have been removed for forensic analysis.
This is the normal process when there is an investigation of alleged sexual offences against children. If the alleged offences were not against his children, then decisions may be made about him having contact with them. This is likely to be supervised.

You ask about the processes that the police and children’s services use.

Children services have to assume the worst, that he could be dangerous to children until they know otherwise. To have a better idea of this, children services will carry out an assessment. Here is information about assessments .

At this stage, they will be assessing whether you as mum can protect your children from the possible risk your husband poses.

Here is information produced by the CAB about police procedures in child sexual abuse cases.

It is a month later, so I am not sure if anything has changed in your situation. Please post back if you need further advice.

For specialised information about sexual abuse risks you could look at the Parents Protect website.


I hope this helps but if you need further advice, please post again.

Best wishes,
Suzie