2 years ago social Services got involved wi my family, I lost my children for a year while ss took me thru court with loads of lies, in the end I proved my innocence and my children returned home. There is no involvement now. After ss I have had to move my kids schools coz the school turned on me wen ss got involved.
Anyway on Tuesday this wk I got a phone call a sw saying they had a anonymous referral saying my ex was back he isn’t (but there’s nothing that says I can’t b wi him) I said it wasn’t true, she asked to speak to kids schools I said no coz ov the trouble caused last time. She said that she was gonna see her manager to see if they can overturn my pr n speak to school anyway. I said ok but I will get legal advice.
I knew nothing first time that’s how they got my kids, I’ve heard nothing since she threatened that should I be worried??
Scared
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: Scared
Dear EJK23284
You posted some time ago and I am sorry for the late response.
If the social worker has contacted you already and told you where the anonymous referral came from, for example a member of the public or someone else who is known to your family, then you may already have the information you need. In relation to ‘overturning your parental responsibility’ does not necessarily happen on the ‘say so’ of a social worker unless there is evidence to prove (or suggest) that the local authority has to act immediately to safeguard a child. Speaking with your children is one way to determine what is happening in their home life and it is likely that the social worker wants to take that action to ensure that your children are ‘safe’. Safety can of course mean not disrupting the children because you have proven in the past that you understand how to protect your children from ‘harm’.
If domestic abuse was the reason that Children’s Services were involved with your family and your partner left the family home because of it, and is now back, despite the fact that you have not been told that you should not resume your relationship, Children’s Services will be concerned about your children’s welfare. However, if your ex-partner has taken measures to address his past and you both have sought support (separately) about domestic abuse then it may be more difficult for a social worker to show that harm ‘will be caused because you are back together’.
If you have not heard anything from the social worker since she first contacted you, I suggest that you contact her, this may sound a little scary but at least you will be able to find out what action if any, has been taken.
If you would like to talk about your situation do call our confidential helpline, it is open Monday to Friday (except Bank Holidays) from 9.30am to 3.00pm on 0808 801 0366.
Best wishes
Suzie
You posted some time ago and I am sorry for the late response.
If the social worker has contacted you already and told you where the anonymous referral came from, for example a member of the public or someone else who is known to your family, then you may already have the information you need. In relation to ‘overturning your parental responsibility’ does not necessarily happen on the ‘say so’ of a social worker unless there is evidence to prove (or suggest) that the local authority has to act immediately to safeguard a child. Speaking with your children is one way to determine what is happening in their home life and it is likely that the social worker wants to take that action to ensure that your children are ‘safe’. Safety can of course mean not disrupting the children because you have proven in the past that you understand how to protect your children from ‘harm’.
If domestic abuse was the reason that Children’s Services were involved with your family and your partner left the family home because of it, and is now back, despite the fact that you have not been told that you should not resume your relationship, Children’s Services will be concerned about your children’s welfare. However, if your ex-partner has taken measures to address his past and you both have sought support (separately) about domestic abuse then it may be more difficult for a social worker to show that harm ‘will be caused because you are back together’.
If you have not heard anything from the social worker since she first contacted you, I suggest that you contact her, this may sound a little scary but at least you will be able to find out what action if any, has been taken.
If you would like to talk about your situation do call our confidential helpline, it is open Monday to Friday (except Bank Holidays) from 9.30am to 3.00pm on 0808 801 0366.
Best wishes
Suzie
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