My child is not in my care.. fighting for my baby back

[BubA]

Hi,

So I am new here and have wanting to post on here for a while but have never had the courage until now.

So my baby was 2/3 months when he was taking off me, for something we did not do or have any aware of (sorry not sure if I'm allowed saying), which we did not do, and have no clue on how ribs fractures have happened, our baby had shown no distress, we had taken him to doctors many occasions for bruising easily on his face where he would of hit himself which people had seen him do like family, e also had taken our baby due to bleeding gums. We are so upset as we are very loving and caring, protective parents and as we are the first time we are so careful as he is our precious baby

We have been through 2 lots of court hearing and we still haven't felt like our voices are being heard and are dealing with a lot of distress of what we are going through.

First of all, the rest of the family were being assessed apart from myself and my partner, however, we were told because of both side of family members are involved in the 'pool of perpetrators', we have been struggling as a whole, and myself and my partner were told we weren't allowed to have parenting assessments until things were starting to be a bit more clearer, and because of the rest of both sides of our family being in the 'pool of perpetrators' they had put their assessment on hold.

Now we are in a situation where all the reports we have been given e.g. medical have been somewhat incorrect/ false information/ a lot of confusion with dates and how many fractures, so things still do not make sense, however, because our visits are going so well and they have no concerns on our parenting, so the court has allowed us to start a plan for the parenting assessment. I and my partner have been trying to do a lot of research to help us as throughout this whole situation as we have been put straight in the deep end (we have never been in this situation and bare in mind we are first-time parents and never thought this would happen to us in a million years), we have been so distressed with everything it has been really hard, however, we have been really strong for our baby. We have no idea what they will ask us apart from eg. how we would change our child and what did we do on a daily basis, other than that research hasn't really helped and we are struggling to be prepared for going through this stage.

We haven't had the greatest of luck with any SW as they are 'busy' we have had 1 conversation throughout the time our baby has been 'in the child of care' we don't get told when visits are, only get told by the Foster Career ( we all call her nanny).

We want our baby home so bad, we feel like things are dragging, and does anyone have any idea on how long these things usually take with rib fractures being the main concern as we are so confused as it is and we are trying to get through each day as it comes. Does anyone have any advice or anything they need to clear with me to give me advice?

There is so much more for me to say, however, as I am new to this I feel like I cant say most of what I do need to say

Thank you if you can help

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Buba

Please see my response to your earlier post.

Thank you.

Best wishes

Suzie