Need my babys back

[Bellaboo123]

Hi all this is my first time posting this so bear with me.. okay my 2 children were removed from my care and placed with there paternal grandmother on a special gardianship order due to my partners drinking problem and stupid behaviour when drunk they put it all down to domestic violence and I was stupid enough to not leave him (weve been together 11 year) I got depressed with the secret drinking and the arguments and was told i was neglecting my boys and i was putting them in danger so now 2 year on I see the boys everyday and they sleep at mine on weekends and school holidays they want to live with me both of them I just dont know where to start with getting them back in my care please dont judge it has taken alot of courage to post this

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Bellaboo123

Welcome to Family Rights Group (FRG) parents’ discussion board and thank you for your post. My name is Suzie and I am FRG’s online adviser. I am sorry to hear about the difficulties that you and your family have experienced.

It sounds as if you now spend a lot of time with your two boys, including overnight stays, and you and they would like them to live at home with you again. It is great to hear that there has been good progress which has led to you wanting to care for the children again.

You said they were removed from your care two years ago and a SGO put in place; this is usually until children are 18 but can of course be ended sooner if that is what is right for the children.

If you think that there has been a significant change in your circumstances that you can demonstrate to the court you would need to ask the court for permission to apply to end the special guardianship order. The court would also have to consider the boys’ welfare and if your application to end the SGO was likely to succeed before they would give you this permission.

If the Special Guardian wants to apply to end the order they don’t have to get the court’s permission first; they can make the application directly to the court.

Please see page 14 of this advice sheet about when can a SGO be ended.

Here are some points to consider:

Is the boys’ Special Guardian (their paternal grandmother) also in agreement with proposals for the children to return home?

Are you and your partner now separated?

Did you get help with how you were feeling? Can you show that you are now well supported?

Have children’s services done any recent assessment and would they support the boys return home?

As it is a private law matter, it would be a good idea for you to get some specific legal advice about the process from Child Law Advice or Rights of Women.

I hope that this helps a little.

With best wishes

Suzie

[Bellaboo123]

Hi thanks for your reply there grandmother doesn't want the boys she can't cope with them and is just so nasty towards them I think that she will support me getting them back they want to be back with me they ask every day I'm not sure what changes would need to be done and can I get them back with me without going to court