A little advice please.
My soon to be ex husband was arrested in 2019 on suspicion of downloading illicit materials pertaining to children. Fast forward to ** Feb 2021 and hes finally been sentenced to ** months (which he'll only do ** months in prison) for 3 charges of category A, B and C child pornography dating back 12 years and 3 charges of voyeurism (he hid cameras in our bathroom for 7 years )
Before he went to prison and I did not know the totality of it all I had tried to given access to the kids. We started with me superving visits out but it felt like a happy family,which we certainly weren't. Then I had his mum supervise, however the more I learnt from the forensic evidence the less I wanted him near them. I couldn't say this as the investigation was ongoing. we agreed for mlhim to call them once a week but he didn't keep this up.
Now I know the true depth of his depravity I really don't want him near the kids, but as a dad he has right. I am only letting him write to the children whilst in jail,but my concern is what happens when he's out? He may not have done anything physical but he has taken ,curated and edited photos of children including ours in the bathroom and downloaded unspeakable images and videos . I don't believe he can change now.
But where do I stand?
We have a SW now (from about January 2020 as I finally lost it as I got no support and my daughter was so anxious she was self harming)
Hell be on the register for 10 years but what does this mean for the children??
** moderated for reasons of confidentiality
What access/contact after conviction
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: What access/contact after conviction
Dear Littlegeo,
Welcome to the parents' board and thank you for your post.
Your soon-to-be ex-husband has recently been given a custodial sentence for 3 charges of Category A, B and C child pornogrophy and 3 charges of voyeurism. Prior to him going to prison, he had contact with your children, initially with you supervising, and then his mother. You are concerned about the extent and nature of the offences your children's father has committed, some of which include your children, and would like to know what you can do when he is released from prison in terms of contact.
Whilst your children's father may have PR, this does not in itself confer an automatic legal right to contact with a child. Nevertheless, contact with one parent cannot usually be stopped legally by the other parent, unless contact would be detrimental to the child's welfare. Given what you have stated in your post, it would seem that if you were to prevent your children having contact with their father, this would be entirely justifiable. In response, your partner may apply to the courts for a child arrangements order, however a judge will only order contact if it is in the child's best interests, and may in fact order that the children should have no contact with their father at all.
It may be helpful for you to discuss this with your social worker as well, and to ask what support may be available to your and your children once their father is released from prison.
You may find it helpful to contact the Lucy Faithful Foundation, Stop it Now helpline, you can find the link here.
Best wishes,
Suzie
Welcome to the parents' board and thank you for your post.
Your soon-to-be ex-husband has recently been given a custodial sentence for 3 charges of Category A, B and C child pornogrophy and 3 charges of voyeurism. Prior to him going to prison, he had contact with your children, initially with you supervising, and then his mother. You are concerned about the extent and nature of the offences your children's father has committed, some of which include your children, and would like to know what you can do when he is released from prison in terms of contact.
Whilst your children's father may have PR, this does not in itself confer an automatic legal right to contact with a child. Nevertheless, contact with one parent cannot usually be stopped legally by the other parent, unless contact would be detrimental to the child's welfare. Given what you have stated in your post, it would seem that if you were to prevent your children having contact with their father, this would be entirely justifiable. In response, your partner may apply to the courts for a child arrangements order, however a judge will only order contact if it is in the child's best interests, and may in fact order that the children should have no contact with their father at all.
It may be helpful for you to discuss this with your social worker as well, and to ask what support may be available to your and your children once their father is released from prison.
You may find it helpful to contact the Lucy Faithful Foundation, Stop it Now helpline, you can find the link here.
Best wishes,
Suzie
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