Hello,
A few months ago, the police contacted my partner and informed him that an allegation of a Sexual Offence against a young person had been made against him by the Foster child of my partners mother.
As I have a 5 year old Autistic son, Social services came out and assessed the situation and filed a report to say to say that they had no concerns however, due to police investigations, my partner was not allowed to have any unsupervised contact with my son. The lady who visited told me that the report would be filed and no further action would be taken.
Several weeks later, two different ladies from social services arrived at the door unannounced and ordered that my partner must leave the house or else they would take me to court to have my son removed. They made me sign a document to say that I would agree to this. He had to leave within the hour with nowhere to go and I wasn't even allowed to have any time to say goodbye to him on my own. They said that I was incapable of providing the supervision that the first lady asked that I provide as I have to sleep, go in the bath etc. so my partner had to leave.
Since then, my partner has been released on bail and most of the sexual offences have been dropped apart from allegations of messages on Facebook that the police have informed my partner are a minor offence as the girl in question was 15 and a half at the time and was inconsistant in her testimony etc.
The lady from the SS who ordered my partner to leave informed me that it was the police that had gone against what the first report said however, when I asked the police this, they said that they had NO problem with my partner being at home with me as the sole supervisor!
Is there any way I can appeal against what the SS have ordered and have my partner come home? The police have no issue with it and I have recently discovered that I am pregnant and I need his support. Why are the SS taking this far more seriously that the police? The police have said that my partner is fine to come home so who am I supposed to listen to? Can my partner come home or do SS have more authority than the police? Also, I intend on contacting the SS and informing them of the police outcome etc, after that information, what will the SS do? Will they reassess the sitution and let my partner home?
I'm so confused! Please help.
What will happen to my family?
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: What will happen to my family?
Hi squeak666
Welcome to the discussion board.
Sorry to hear that you appear to be in such a difficult situation with regard to Children's Services involvement regarding your 5 year old son, and the allegations that have been made about your partner from a foster child.
The difficulty you seem to be facing, is that there appears to be potential concerns being raised about your partner in two separate family homes. Furthermore, a contradiction between the first social work assessment that had no concerns about your capacity to keep your son safe, and a more recent one, that gives a different point of view.
However, if I understand your post correctly, the first assurance you were given, was based on a verbal account from a professional that may now have left their post. Did you ever receive a copy of the written report - initial or core assessment, if that was what took place?
Secondly, if there is a joint section 47 child protection investigation being conducted between police and Children's Services, you should receive joint feedback from them the two agencies, at the same time. I deally, you would have received this in writing, from the allocated or duty social worker to inform you of the outcome, and any decisions that have been made in relation to your child.
Could it be that there is a single agency investigation being completed by Children's Services, presently. It is important to know that they have a different threshold to the police? Normally, the police consider beyond reasonable doubt, and whether they could obtain a criminal prosecution through the court. Children's Services on the other hand investigate significant harm, or the likelihood of it, in relation to any children that come to their attention.
It seem that your partner has now been asked to leave the family home by a new social worker, who was not previously involved, and that you have now been asked to complete a written agreement. Have similar conditions been placed on your partner, and him visiting his mother's home, and the address where the foster child was, may still be residing.
Because there are child protection issues to consider in two households, regarding the safety of any children that may be placed, or visit on a regular basis, which makes the investigation more complex.
In exceptional circumstances, under schedule 2 paragraph 5 Children Act 1989, Children's Services have the power to provide accommodation for an alleged perpetrator, to temporarily reside elsewhere. Where an allegation has been made against an adult within a household, Children's Services can take this safeguarding action, whilst they complete their child protection enquiries regarding your son and your unborn baby.
The issues is about whether you have been given clear written and verbal instructions, and the need for the Local Authority to complete their section 47 enquiries, in a timely way. You should also be assessed for any family support
family support and may find it helpful to speak to the Lucy Faithfull Foundation 0808 1000 900.
Sorry to have to ask so many questions, but this is so I can advise you better, once these issues are made clear.
Best Wishes
Suzie
Welcome to the discussion board.
Sorry to hear that you appear to be in such a difficult situation with regard to Children's Services involvement regarding your 5 year old son, and the allegations that have been made about your partner from a foster child.
The difficulty you seem to be facing, is that there appears to be potential concerns being raised about your partner in two separate family homes. Furthermore, a contradiction between the first social work assessment that had no concerns about your capacity to keep your son safe, and a more recent one, that gives a different point of view.
However, if I understand your post correctly, the first assurance you were given, was based on a verbal account from a professional that may now have left their post. Did you ever receive a copy of the written report - initial or core assessment, if that was what took place?
Secondly, if there is a joint section 47 child protection investigation being conducted between police and Children's Services, you should receive joint feedback from them the two agencies, at the same time. I deally, you would have received this in writing, from the allocated or duty social worker to inform you of the outcome, and any decisions that have been made in relation to your child.
Could it be that there is a single agency investigation being completed by Children's Services, presently. It is important to know that they have a different threshold to the police? Normally, the police consider beyond reasonable doubt, and whether they could obtain a criminal prosecution through the court. Children's Services on the other hand investigate significant harm, or the likelihood of it, in relation to any children that come to their attention.
It seem that your partner has now been asked to leave the family home by a new social worker, who was not previously involved, and that you have now been asked to complete a written agreement. Have similar conditions been placed on your partner, and him visiting his mother's home, and the address where the foster child was, may still be residing.
Because there are child protection issues to consider in two households, regarding the safety of any children that may be placed, or visit on a regular basis, which makes the investigation more complex.
In exceptional circumstances, under schedule 2 paragraph 5 Children Act 1989, Children's Services have the power to provide accommodation for an alleged perpetrator, to temporarily reside elsewhere. Where an allegation has been made against an adult within a household, Children's Services can take this safeguarding action, whilst they complete their child protection enquiries regarding your son and your unborn baby.
The issues is about whether you have been given clear written and verbal instructions, and the need for the Local Authority to complete their section 47 enquiries, in a timely way. You should also be assessed for any family support
family support and may find it helpful to speak to the Lucy Faithfull Foundation 0808 1000 900.
Sorry to have to ask so many questions, but this is so I can advise you better, once these issues are made clear.
Best Wishes
Suzie
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