Anybody else feel alone?

[antisocialpanda]

Hi, my 2 boys are currently in interim foster care and have been since November last year. It's been such an uphill battle but I'm keeping on fighting, some days I feel strong but other days (most days, like today) I feel like I'm the only person in the world who's going through this right now and I have nobody. Its such a horrendous situation to find yourself in as a parent, even worse when it drags on for so long and you feel like everybody is judging you when you've done nothing wrong. Anybody else going through care proceedings right now and feels the same? I find it helpful sometimes to know that you're not alone and other people go through this BS too.
Thanks in advance

[KatKat10]

antisocialpanda, yes I do feel alone sometimes. I am focusing on getting my children back home and keeping myself busy with activities when I start to feel lonely. I understand what you mean, people treating you differently, the looks and the stares, people who smile and walk past to avoid talking to you, like you have the plague. On the positive side, I have had some really good support from friends and that is keeping me going and also support groups, talking to people who are going or have gone through same experience.
It has also opened my eyes to those people who I thought would be supportive, but have retreated into the shadows.

Keep posting here for support, there is some very good advice from these forums and the website and I have found FRG advisors very helpful on the phone and these forums.

Keep going, don't give up and I hope you get your boys home soon.
KatKat10

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear antisociapanda

Thank you for your post. My name is Suzie, I am an online adviser and will be responding to your post today.

I am sorry to hear of your distress, it is a difficult and stressful situation to manage. It is natural to go through a range of emotions from strong and resilient to low and isolated. I hope the information provided is helpful to you.

I have added a link HERE to an organisation called Matchmothers. This organisation supports mothers who are apart from their children for many different reasons and who are in various circumstances. They have a Help, Support and Advice line - 0800 689 4104 which is free and confidential for mothers apart from their children. It is open daily from 9.30am -1pm and 7pm -9.30pm.

As indicated by KatKat10, you can also contact our advice line to discuss matters relating to children’s services and their intervention into your family life. Our advice service is for parents, grandparents, relatives, friends and kinship carers who are involved with children’s services in England or need their help. We support families to understand the law and child welfare processes when social workers or courts are making decisions about their children. We are open Monday to Friday between 9.30am and 3pm (excluding Bank Holidays) on 0808 801 0366 or Textphone dial 18001 followed by the advice line number.

Best wishes, Suzie