Help!

[Bellabou]

On Monday this weekend this is the first time my partner has ever laid a hand on me ever and the first time the police have been called to my property too. My and my partner got into an argument and he ended breaking my nose. It didn’t require surgery or any further treatment. It’s been a build up of things and I am in no way excusing this behaviour it’s not acceptable and I know that! This is the first time it’s ever happened as I’ve explained. He’s the most amazing partner and father to our two boys! He previously was charged with assault on his ex twice but that’s not as black and white as it seems either. I contacted the OIC of my case and have asked to make a retraction statement so he is coming out next week to take it, what I am worrying about is the effect this will have on the relationship. The children weren’t there at the time my oldest was at nursery and youngest was at my MIL’s. I’m scared of the outcome. Can anyone advise me of what they think the outcome will be. As I’ve mentioned before the police have never been called to my property before and I am scared that his previous offences which were almost 6 years ago will be used against him. He is in no way shape or form that type of person we have our arguments but this is the first an will be the last time he ever raises his hands to me. I currently can’t have contact with him because he is on bail. He’s still seeing the children. The police kept asking me if I was scared of him I told them no because I’m not and never have been. They also asked if he could see the children and I said yes of course he’s no danger to me or them children. Does anybody have any clue on the outcome of the situation. My oldest son isn’t biologically his and he took him on and did what I thought no man would ever do. I am retracting my statement next week and just wondered what the our come may be? I’m so scared they’re going to put conditions in place that we can’t see each other or have contact and that he’s going to go to prison. I have told the police that all I want him to do is get help for his anger. Please help!

** EDIT **
Ss have been informed but have heard nothing yet from them. I’ve had IDVA contact me and [Local Authority] victims service and I’ve told them all of the outcome I want which is to be a family again and I told the officer in charge that too. I told a DV worker in the hospital when I attended that too.

Edited by Suzie in accordance with our rules of use

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Bellabou

Just to confirm that I responded to your duplicate post yesterday.

Best wishes

Suzie