advice needed

[Skysie98]

Hi,
I am new to the forum and looking for advice.
Please don’t judge
Me and my partner had been together for 4 years. He’s on the register till 2026 he’s had a sopo but nothing about children on it. His offences were online communication in 2015 were he went to prison for 1 year and 1 year on liscence he was given 10 years on register and sopo. and unfortunately he reoffended when we got together in 2019. He had had no support the first time and even the judge admitted this and so he was remorseful and that he wanted help he has since done loads of work! He was given a 3 year community order that ends this may and no time added to sopo or register.
We have had a history of domestic abuse calls his mental health was often bad and he would throw things and get upset (last incident dec 2021)
I have BPD but it’s been under control for 3 years.
Earlier this year I fell pregnant the social worker bascially refused to work with us since day 1 used false information and misinterpreted what we said.
We had a psychologist report on both of us. Mainly positive however he’s been reccomended a DAPP course which can’t be done with a child in his care and Stopso therapy which can be done with child in his care if he proves motivation etc.
He’s low risk of contact and no immediate risk to young females or males it’s more age 12-13 and his method would be online he’s currently medium risk for reoffending but the psychologist did say he believed that my partner did not wish to reoffend again and would do any work to show that.
I was reccomoned stopso and work on my BPD which can be done with a child in my care with support.
They applied for an ICO when she was born this was granted based on the mental health and the domestic violence.
My Solictor has reccomended I currently fight on my own for her to get her in my care as if he gets reassessed and still has reccomendations to be done then they would put her up for adoption.
I have done the freedom programme online and so has he and have referred myself to do it person
I had CBT earlier this year and have referred myself back to well-being again.
Signed up to Inform with Lucy faithfull and have contacted the NSPCC about the womens as protecters course.
He is waiting for funding for the course and therapy but will engage with them fully. He’s already done work around it but social don’t believe he will continue to change.
The last year was amazing he had done work on his agression etc and was continuing to work on it. He’s done so much and even the psychologist saw this.
I stayed with him through everything because I didn’t have a child in my care and I can voice how I feel and I know our daughter can’t and would never let any harm come to her the minute he raised his voice I would kick him out.
I asked him to move out 4 weeks before she was born but social don’t believe I would keep him out of the home I have saftey plans we made (social worker refused to help us with these we now have a new social worker) and he has to register addresses he stays at at the police station. I have even suggested a door camera.
I originally didn’t understand the domestic abuse but do now.
I also know his triggers, to call the police etc.
I have a wide support network however the social worker has lied and said I don’t.
Anyway my Solictor has said fight on my own for now think of it as forever just in case his courses don’t work or he gets more recommendations so I can get her back.
My questions :
are isthere hope in the future? His course takes 6 months and the therapy doesn’t have a timeline but was said he could do it with child in his care if he proves motivation to change which I know he will and even the psychologist said he would.
Is there hope?
Also they took her on my mental health cause the psychologist said I was emotionally disregulated however my dr is confused as I have been fine for 3 years the courts are still waiting on this report from my dr to come through and police dislosure. When these come back could she be returned?
Also I have to have a protective parenting assessment done by Lucy faithfull what will this entail?

We are currently seperated to do what’s best for our little girl but I want to know if there is any hope.

[Need help 2021]

Hi I just saw your post what Lucy faith full will do is a risk assessment to see what risk he will poses to the little girl and then from there socail will tell you how they feel about his risk but you did the best thing saying you are not with him they want to make sure you are being a protective factor which is very important to them .