CIN Meetinf

[Hopeful1993]

Hello, I’m looking for any advice as I’ve googled endlessly and still feel none the wiser.
This morning I received a notification for a CIN meeting next week, I have emailed our current SW for further information without much clarity. Does anyone have any experience of this meeting and can offer any insight ? I read on another forum it’s good to start making a safety plan, my OH is no longer on the SOR as of yesterday but SS had concerns over him still accessing mainstream porn. Is anyone able to share any safety plans they put in place ? I know many people have them in place if they stay with their partner and have children. I’ve wrote down the obvious but just feel like it’s not enough for them. Feeling judged and extra on edge now.
Thankyou

[Need help 2021]

Hi I just saw you post it’s called child in need meeting it’s basically to discuss Wht can be put in place to protect you child if I am right your baby is not born yet so they want to see how you can protect you child from harm from your partner if I am correct you case is not in court Wht have the social Woker said to you so far

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Hopeful1993,

I have responded to your previous post.

Best wishes,

Suzie.

[Hopeful1993]

Hi Need help 2021,
Last night receive an email with the assessment, it was mostly what we expected but some facts were wrong and some were missing. Nothing I had said in my meeting about the safety plan ideas my OH and I had discussed had been included in the report. There was of course alot around his ongoing porn use and how they don’t feel he has dealt with this. We mentioned to them about how he was willing to give up his smart phone and have restrictions on the wifi to aid him, this was not mentioned in the report either. The summary is that they feel I do not understand the extent of how his offences have affected others and that it needs to be unpicked further or that my OH has groomed me. It states after that their concern is that I could put his needs before my child and put them at risk - of course I disagree but have no idea how to disprove this other than showing willingness to work with them and to attend any courses to further my knowledge and understanding. It doesn’t seem to matter that we have seen a stopso therapist and unpicked how he ended up in the situation (not that it excuses what he did. Which I emphasised to them). They are adamant he is attracted to children and accessed the chat room for gratification.

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Hopeful1993,

I can see that you say that you had some concerns that there was missing information and some incorrect information within the assessment that has recently been completed. If you wish to challenge this then I would advise you to write a clear, concise email explaining which bits of the assessment you disagree with and why, as well as what you feel is missing from the report. You can send this to the social worker who completed the assessment and their team manager.

If you are unhappy with their response then you may wish to consider making a formal complaint. You can find more information on our website HERE about this.

Best wishes,
Suzie