Family court

[LKNM123]

It has been an uphill struggle of the worst kind after being thrown out by my husband 2018 who was controling towards myself and children after 25 years being a Victorian house wife as he stated 1930s era he was authoritarian I was left in pyjamas destitute penniless on calling the police for help one policeman arrived telling me that he would not of let no one take his children I am 8 stone woman and my then husband was with his sis and her other half with hammers and chains which scared me to death and worried for the children also one child is diabetes one and having hyper
So there welfare was my only concern ok throw me out but don't take the children out the house which still happened he took the children and double locked the doors I called the housing they gave me a porch light refuge card that was it so I thought it calm down and he be back so waited but after two days the house was empty still so I needed my meds and bag full clothes I had no choice but force entry and start sofa surfing untill I heard from him only contact from then was the police arrested me burglary ( no charge )joint names ! Then arrested again for using debit card 10'pound top up 3months prior ( no charge )
I get concerned about the children but no one can help so I go to there school and suddenly got told leave the premises a court order against myself and then domestic abuse team at the school which I attended told my husband that I was going there and felt sorry for him even my mother and family when finally after a week the children come back to there house I was allowed only 10 minutes in my mum's car at Tesco carpark kids were in bits so was I but 10 min was the limit eventually it was also cafcass , court's ,telling me the same it appeared my husband applied for non molestation order and never got one but thought he had so his word was taken by every one I even believed it well I did not want get in trouble the social services got involved due to my husband and prior abuse
towards myself but this was turned round against myself as my husband told everyone they involved due to me this continued 2018 till 2023 in fact my husband convinced the courts I missed a court hearing for child contact and they issued a order that he can deal with contact as feels fit I was punished if 2 minutes late I would have to do phone calls monitored ,door step visits and for weeks again 2018-2023 I tried contacting cafcass etc but every one had seen and confirmed the order I signed over the house but my husband convinced every one my name was removed due to burglary and the safety of the kids I say this was and is a nightmare no one would expect
Out the blue 8am in the morning
Any way I had only one court case in 2018 I agreed house kids stay with father I did not want them separated occupation order granted that was it untill 2023 I was controlled looked down on my children were brainwashed 2dont talk to me 2 I see now but still controlled visits
And that is allowed only because the court told him he denied my rights also they said sorry to me for the incorrect issue of the contact order (wow ) the first court 2018 the only other court case for contact 2023 when eventually it was believed I was not making all this up as cafcass was reporting non molestation order ,missed court case ,social services the same ,court papers included them I was bashing my head against a wall but if my husband had the court order which was him in charge contact how could I say it is not right how could I prove I never missed a court case as it was in the order but eventually years after some one took on my case even cafcass cried social services sent letter in about abuse the court never took notice
There is so much more to this and all I got was sorry for the delay in you having contact we can do the order now

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear LKNM123

Welcome to the parents’ discussion forum.

My name is Suzie, online adviser at Family Rights Group. I see from your very detailed post that you have had a very difficult time both because of the domestic abuse in your marriage and subsequently when you tried to get the help and support you needed from children’s services, the court and other services. It must have been so hard for you when your abuser was believed over you and as a result your relationship with your children was so badly affected.

It has taken a significant amount of time, but you have now reached the point where all of your concerns have been acknowledged and addressed. Perhaps it is too little and too late but the important thing is that you now have the opportunity rebuild your relationship with all your children.

You have not asked a specific question in your post, but it seems that you could consider making formal complaints to the services that failed you so much over the years. All should have a formal complaint procedure and you may wish to consider if you want to pursue complaints. I have included a link to information relating to complaints to children’s services. Complaints procedure/policy should be available from organisations websites, or you can ask for the information.

All the best for contact with your children now you have an order.

Best wishes

Suzie

[LKNM123]

Thankyou SO MUCH
for your reply
It has been to little to late as I have four children 2 I see 2 I don't they have been made to believe all I mentioned I am not able to correct it as my 2 children i do see will not be able to see me honestly again and again in statements I repeated the mistakes made but family court was on lockdown it was mainly over the phone interviews
" Terrible way to interview such important things the courts overlooked my statements or ignored them it was only because of a mistake with an appointment that the court person went to my then husband by mistake first then to me then went back to the children at school which then opened Pandora's box and I was revisited the court lady and social services all phoned me after the last court case which I was told is not what they do and asked how I got on they were so happy on my interview one cried
They had never heard a story so unbelievable that was true
The family dynamics now is my eldest now 18 plays mum my other son is withdrawn the two youngest are not able to understand as I say nothing about the case it annoys me when they do say " you done as your told or meant to do to see us it does really hurt
THANKYOU
I WILL LOOK INTO THE INFOMATION YOU GAVE ME
TO LITTLE TO LATE BUT I AM STILL SUFFERING X