SOR police may disclose to my family

[Scaredand confused]

So long story short, my partner has a conviction for possession of IIOC. He has done everything as asked and has restrictions only relating to internet as they do not deem him a risk elsewhere. We have recently moved to near my parents and the MAPPA worker had said she may need to disclose the conviction to my family. I am really confused as to why and concerned as this will likely end all relationships with my family. Really lost about what to do now

[Need help 2021]

Hi I think the reason they want to tell the family is to make sure you are able to protect your child can he see his kids at the money with you superversing

[Scaredand confused]

Hi thank you for replying. I don’t have any children. I have nephews but rarely see them. Yes he is allowed to see his children with me there. We are in the process of moving forward to overnights and holidays. The whole process just seems wrong as he doesn’t need supervision with any children according to their rules and to now decide 7 years after offence that my family need to be informed seems contradictory when they have been encouraging us to do more things/spend more time with nieces and nephews on his side talking about how to eye don’t see a risk to others etc. I feel like this now will ultimately punish me for something I had no involvement with years before I met him and yet I have done everything everyone has asked of me to support the rebuild of contact with his children. I am just so lost as to why they said they wouldn’t actually have told me, who lives with him until it came to supporting the contact with his children but now have to drop this on my family who I have very little relationship with anyway and never since they have been born have I even been alone with their children so why they think my partner suddenly will?

[Need help 2021]

To be honest that’s crazy you should have said that he doesn’t see them they will find any excuses they can to be honest in my case I have been tould he can see his son when he is 7 unsupervised so I don’t see why it will be a problem if we was to stay together afterwards this is all crazy and his office was online I gess as he had assignments done with Lucyfaith and what rush does he poses .

[Scaredand confused]

It does seem really crazy! I’m really struggling to understand it all. I have emailed the police woman basically telling her all of it but of course they won’t answer me because I am not their concern yet they seem happy to destroy my life for it! His children are older both over 10 now and fully informed etc. They assessed very early on that it was a “breakdown” but still this is what they are threatening.
I have spoken with social and they assessed that other than a few agreements (where baby would sleep/personal care) they had no concerns. I have fertility issues so unlikely but needed to know what would happen yet now I potentially lose the very little family relationship I have for something I didn’t have anything to do with.
Sorry if sounding dramatic, right from the start of this everyone talks to him like he is a victim but to me like I am scum. They want him to rehabilitate and make the positive life steps yet me who has enabled that is treated like a monster over and over. Fed up.

[Need help 2021]

I have inboxed you

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Scaredandconfused,

Your partner has a conviction for possession of indecent images of children. You have recently moved to be nearer your family and the MAPPA worker has said they may need to disclose the conviction to your family. You do not have any children.

For more information and advice on this, I would advise that you or your partner contact Unlock on 01634 247350. Unlock advise those who have criminal records to move forward with their lives. You may also wish to contact the Lucy Faithful organisation on 0808 1000 900, who provide advice to family members of those who have offended online.

Best wishes,

Suzie.