Served my sentence - SS still punishing us

[FragileReality1980]

First post…here goes.

I spent ten years on the SOR, 5 of which were under a SOPO. I received a 9 month sentence, suspended for two years. First offence.
I did my time, kept my nose clean and worked the whole time, paying my way and obeying all SOR rules and regs. Like an idiot, I attempted to sting someone online and ended up crossing a line…I was arrested again shortly after my time of the SOR ended. I’ve never forgiven myself for it. After a lengthy investigation, the case was dropped and given NFA. That was 2020.

I’m in a very loving relationship. I haven’t been forthcoming with the details but she has found out through Sarah’s Law (she actually called about Claire’s Law, which came up empty) about the conviction and time on the register. The police told her I did 9 months inside. This is a LIE. They didn’t tell her ANYTHING else. Social Services got involved, presumably because of the initial call to Claire’s Law etc. SS have told her that they’re more to tell, which I have now explained. They are also saying she has to either leave me or her ex, the father of her two children, would need to be informed etc.
We both strenuously object to the manner in which we are being treated by Social. We keep our relationship to exactly that…our relationship. Even though I’m ZERO threat to the kids, I still won’t spend any time alone with them because I don’t trust the system any more. We don’t live together, I’ve never even spent the night at her house.

Is there anything that can be done here? This is destroying us.

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear FragileReality1980

Thank you for your post and welcome to the Board.

From what you have written, Children’s Services are concerned about ‘risk’ you may pose to your partner’s children and are ‘safeguarding’ them. You say you are zero threat/risk to them and ask what more can you do? From what you have written you are cooperating with the process; may I suggest that you continue to do so.

A charity called Unlock might have some helpful information for you and your partner. We Stand and The Lucy Faithfull Foundation, may be helpful too.

Best wishes
Suzie