Confused - back on supervised

[JulyBabyComing]

Hi,

I feel like I’m posted here so much recently, I hope that’s ok.

3 weeks ago I found out I am pregnant (a planned pregnancy) and I informed social services on the same day.

During that time my other two children have been given a social worker each. My other two children have been saying at my house half of the week, my son (who’s under an SGO) since 2020 and my daughter (who’s under a CAO) since the beginning of this year.

Basically, the last children’s services knew was that I was seeing my children supervised (the result of my being left in a pool for an injury I didn’t cause). Since there the SGO and CAO have both independently progressed me to unsupervised and shared-care arrangements, it’s been wonderful. During this time there’s been no issues whatsoever.

As children’s services didn’t know about this move to unsupervised, I was advised when I told them about the unborn baby that they would need to do a quick assessment to update their system, which I understand.

My sons social worker was so empathetic and came out to see me with my children, she said that it’s just to update their notes and they’re not seeking to change anything - it’s just so their system reflects the current arrangements. Everything is currently as it has been for years with my son, nothings changed. This social worker said it should play positively into unborn baby’s assessment too.

I hadn’t heard anything at all from my daughters social worker until yesterday - and she’s told me that she was recommending I move back to supervised contact while she carries out her assessment. She said if me and the CAO didn’t agree to this it would go to an initial child protection plan, because of the pool I was left in for an injury that happened in 2017 that I didn’t cause. The social worker said that she’s spoken to my daughter who has expressed she is happy with me and what’s to stay at my home, the CAO has no concerns and has stated the move to unsupervised has only benefited my daughter, and there’s been no issues or anything flagged from the school or anything.

I’m so upset by it, my daughter has gone from her staying at my house 3 nights a week along with her brother (so they got that time together too) to us trying to figure out when I can see her based on who can supervised and around out work patterns and school, because of an assessment to update their system. I’m also baffled because I was told this was simply to update the system about the current arrangements- yet now the arrangements that I was told they’d be assessing (the 3 nights a week unsupervised) have been changed. And my daughters social worker hasn’t seen me with her, which I’m sure they should do?

I’ve left a message on the phone with my unborn baby’s social worker to update them, and have explained that I don’t fully understand, that I’m worried about the impact on my son and daughter who will now loose that time together, and how it’s upset me and how I feel they should know because of the unborn baby being their sibling too.

My daughters social worker did say it was just for the duration of the assessment, but I’m terrified it won’t go back to unsupervised now.

The CAO is confused too, as they’ve been told they’re well within their rights to have made the decision to move to unsupervised. We’re all just so upset and confused by it.

I’m finding it hard to understand why after 7 and a half months of happy unsupervised time, and agreed shared-care, where there’s been no issues, the social worker has reinstated supervised for the sake of an assessment based on what happened 6 years ago? Surely the most recent information they should be working on is the unsupervised that has went well this past 7 months? I just don’t understand and it hurts

[JulyBabyComing]

The same things just happened with my son. After 4 and a half years of unsupervised with no issues, I’m back on supervised for the duration of the assessment because of the pool.

[JulyBabyComing]

Could someone help advice on what’s happening please?

I was told when I first told social services about the unborn baby that they’d need to update the system about my other children’s current arrangements but that nothing would change, and now after 4 and a half years unsupervised (in my sons case) and 7 and a half months unsupervised with my daughter, they’re both back on supervised while assessments are carried out.

I don’t fully understand what the assessments are for or why I had to go back on supervised for the duration of them? And will the unsupervised be reinstated once the assessments are finished?

I know I was one of two people to be left in a pool of perpetrators, but I know I didn’t do it and even in the courts view, it’s a 50/50 - even in their view they’re 50% wrong about me.

I just don’t understand how being unsupervised with my son for most of his life with no issues can be stopped just like that?