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Max
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Good evening..I need help ..let me explain first ..my previous marriage broke up ..my step daughter wanted to come live with me ..I took her to the local police station to make sure it was OK...which the police said it was..around 6 weeks after she made a false allegation of sexual touching on me ..I was never arrested and the police did a nfa . This was three years ago now social services are saying I cannot stay at my new partners home while the boys are there what can I do
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Dear Max,
Thank you for your post and welcome to the parents' forum.
You say that your previous marriage ended and that your step-daughter asked to come and live with you. 6 weeks after this, she made a disclosure of inappropriate sexual touching. You deny this and say that you were not arrested. You now have a new partner and children's services are saying that you cannot stay at their home whilst her sons are there. You would like to know what you can do.
It appears from your post that children's services may be worried that you pose some risk to your new partner's children based on the previous disclosure made against you. Your partner can decide to follow children's services recommendations, in which case your relationship will have to be conducted within these parameters.
She may want to speak to children's services about why they have made this recommendation and request that you undergo a risk assessment. Children's services may not agree to this and may wish to make a formal complaint if she thinks they have been unfair.
If she decides not to follow children's services recommendation, children's services may be concerned about her prioritising your relationship and not putting the children's best interests first. They may choose to escalate to their level of involvement, for example by initiating child protection enquiries.
For more information and advice, you may find it helpful to contact the Lucy Faithful organisation on 0808 1000 900.
Best wishes,
Suzie.
Thank you for your post and welcome to the parents' forum.
You say that your previous marriage ended and that your step-daughter asked to come and live with you. 6 weeks after this, she made a disclosure of inappropriate sexual touching. You deny this and say that you were not arrested. You now have a new partner and children's services are saying that you cannot stay at their home whilst her sons are there. You would like to know what you can do.
It appears from your post that children's services may be worried that you pose some risk to your new partner's children based on the previous disclosure made against you. Your partner can decide to follow children's services recommendations, in which case your relationship will have to be conducted within these parameters.
She may want to speak to children's services about why they have made this recommendation and request that you undergo a risk assessment. Children's services may not agree to this and may wish to make a formal complaint if she thinks they have been unfair.
If she decides not to follow children's services recommendation, children's services may be concerned about her prioritising your relationship and not putting the children's best interests first. They may choose to escalate to their level of involvement, for example by initiating child protection enquiries.
For more information and advice, you may find it helpful to contact the Lucy Faithful organisation on 0808 1000 900.
Best wishes,
Suzie.
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