Child arrangement order

[Leigh_99]

I was wondering if anyone can advise on this topic. I have a child arrangement order in place alongside a lives with order. The order is as follows:
- the children live with the mother (myself) full time
- the children must spend weekends Saturday at 10am until Sunday at 1pm with their dad
- the dad should not collect the children from any school they attend
- school holidays to be set out equally between parents
- collection only via a third party

However 5 weeks ago the children dad collected the children on the weekend as planned and never returned the children at the allocated time, since the time of the order he’s never used a third party to collect the children but I always made it work, he made threats to contact social services over matters which were untrue and have since been proven untrue by social services. I explained to social services that I have this order in place but they still allowed the 2 children to stay with their dad but my other 2 children with a different dad stayed at home with me. The school went against my court order saying they allowed dad to take the children from school because of the concerns he raised and the whole situation has been one big mess. I’ve applied back to court to enforce the existing court order as advised by social services, however today social services phoned me and told me I was to collect the children from school as they decided to tell them my court order still stands and explained the concerns dad has raised had been proven untrue. Dad was not happy about this and said no to social services however i did collect the children and they are now home. School are now pressuring me into letting dad have the children again over the weekend as my court order states however I’m concerned if I do that the children won’t be returned again and I’ll be back in this vicious cycle he’s created. I’ve contacted my solicitor and explained the children are now home however I still want to go back to court to change the court order to prevent this happening again, but my question is what do I do when it comes to the weekend he’s already said if I send them he won’t send them back so am I within my rights not to send them and to apply back to the courts, I don’t want to do the wrong thing by going against my court order however I’m confident that he won’t comply to it again and will contact social with further false information. Can anyone help me on what’s best to do

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Leigh_99

Thank you for your post and welcome to the discussion board. My name is Suzie, I am an online adviser and will be replying to you today.

You have a child arrangements order which sets out who your children live with (you), what level of contact they should have with their father, as well as who should collect them from school, and holiday arrangements.

Between you both you made the order work with some adjustments that I presume you both agreed upon. The children’s father raised concerns about your parenting to children’s services which they found to be untrue.

I don’t fully understand why the school are involved with the decision making for the children in respect of whom the children stay with.

From the information you have provided this is a private law matter. We are not funded to provide advice in this type of situation, and it is not our area of expertise.

I have added HERE
a link to Child Law Advice that you may find helpful. They provide information and guidance within private law matters and have a helpful where you can book a call to discuss your situation. However, seeing as you have a solicitor I would suggest you seek their guidance regarding your situation.

Best wishes, Suzie