I posted a while back about how my 2 children were taken in to voluntary care. I have found out from them today that they are not coping and wish to leave. My eldest (who is now 16) has been referred for supported living and I'm more than happy for her to do that. My youngest though is undecided about if they want to go to a care home of come back to me.
If they decided to come back to me, how would I go about this without the social wanting to do a court order to remove them again? The living conditions in the home have greatly improved and I've kept on top of them and my mental health has also improved. I'm due to start parenting assessments tomorrow.
13 year old wanting to come home from voluntary care
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Riri13
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: 13 year old wanting to come home from voluntary care
Dear Riri13
Thank you for your further post.
I am sorry to hear that your two children are not coping well in voluntary care.
It sounds as if you are making great improvements in your home conditions and that your mental health is getting better. I am pleased to hear this; well done for your hard work. I hope that you have help and support to keep up all the progress you have made.
If your children are in care voluntarily with your consent and with no care order in place, then you can of course ask for them (or at least your younger child) to return home to your care. The first step would be to discuss this with your social worker and get their response. As you are about to begin parenting assessments it may be that this is with a view to the child/ren returning home anyway so it may be a good idea to complete the parenting assessments first. You could also ask for your child/ren to have advocates to help their voices be heard more when plans are being made for them.
Having re-read your initial post, I wonder if you and your children are in Wales rather than in England. If so, then as the child welfare and legal system is different in Wales, unfortunately, we are not able and are not funded to provide advice but you may be able to get advice from one of the services linked to here.
Please do post back for further advice if you and your children are in England so that we can add to the basic advice given.
I hope that this helps.
Best wishes
Suzie
Thank you for your further post.
I am sorry to hear that your two children are not coping well in voluntary care.
It sounds as if you are making great improvements in your home conditions and that your mental health is getting better. I am pleased to hear this; well done for your hard work. I hope that you have help and support to keep up all the progress you have made.
If your children are in care voluntarily with your consent and with no care order in place, then you can of course ask for them (or at least your younger child) to return home to your care. The first step would be to discuss this with your social worker and get their response. As you are about to begin parenting assessments it may be that this is with a view to the child/ren returning home anyway so it may be a good idea to complete the parenting assessments first. You could also ask for your child/ren to have advocates to help their voices be heard more when plans are being made for them.
Having re-read your initial post, I wonder if you and your children are in Wales rather than in England. If so, then as the child welfare and legal system is different in Wales, unfortunately, we are not able and are not funded to provide advice but you may be able to get advice from one of the services linked to here.
Please do post back for further advice if you and your children are in England so that we can add to the basic advice given.
I hope that this helps.
Best wishes
Suzie
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