Restricted husband from coming home.

[Waggers]

Greetings.

I hope this message finds you well.

I am deaf and have three children by different fathers. The youngest child’s biological father is my husband, with whom I have been living together as a family.

He moved to the UK two years ago from an African country and has been very supportive of both me and the children.

One of his main principles is strict parenting. He filters adult content from the devices used by our older daughter. This appears to have led her to make allegations of sexual assault. As a result, the school made a referral to Social Services and the police. My husband was arrested and released on bail, even though he has no family or support network in the UK.

During a subsequent police interview conducted with our daughter at her school, she stated that she did not wish to pursue the matter any further. The police therefore dropped the case with the outcome “No Further Action”.

The police contacted me directly to inform me that the case had been closed and asked whether I had any questions. I asked whether this meant my husband could return home as normal, since the bail conditions had been lifted. They confirmed that this was the case.

However, at a subsequent core group meeting, Social Services stated that my husband should not have unsupervised contact with anyone under the age of 17 unless approved by them. When I pointed out that the police case had been closed, they initially claimed that my husband had told me this information. I corrected them, explaining that the police had informed me directly. They did not pursue the matter further.

During the same meeting, Social Services stated that my husband would be allowed to return home after a risk assessment had been completed and that they would make a referral the following week. When the referral was made, I discovered it was for me, not for my husband. I completed the assessment and the report was sent to Social Services.

In the report, Social Services misrepresented what I had said. I became upset and contacted the professionals who had carried out the assessment. They confirmed that I had indeed provided them with the correct information and were shocked by the inaccuracies in the Social Services report. I forwarded the report to them, and they questioned whether Social Services was breaching their code of ethics.

The report also stated that my husband would still need to undergo a risk assessment, which I find both distressing and incorrect, as he has never had one.

I am struggling to manage the three children on my own. My husband has been extremely supportive and has carried out approximately 70% of the more demanding tasks, while I handle the simpler ones. Last Friday night, I fainted in the bathroom due to stress and depression. The baby was left on the bed and the other two children were asleep. It is worrying to imagine what could have happened.

The children have repeatedly asked Social Services to allow their father to return home, but their wishes do not appear to be taken into account.

I have already informed Social Services that we are willing to install domestic CCTV in the living room and hallway so that any future allegations can be properly reviewed. They have stated that this is not their concern and that we may do so if we wish. At the same time, they are accusing me of failing to take protective action, which I do not fully understand. I am not in employment and am at home full-time. My husband is the one who works, and there has been no opportunity for any sexual assault to have occurred.

Note: All the reports I have received contain consistent inaccuracies. Despite my repeated requests for corrections, these have not been made. Social Services have informed me that they rely on “Magic Notes” which summarise the information