how do i get my son back

[cath07]

hi im new to this but im in a very difficult situation, i took my 2 children to there grandmothers on there dads side as i was going to liverpool to see my auntie before she passed when i came back the next day i contacted them and said i will be comeing to pick up the kids but she said no and refused i phoned the police and explained and they went round but they had took the kids out at 7pm i was fumeing but the grandmother told them so many lies saying i abandoned them i went to see a solicitor and he wrote to her saying can you hand the kids back to my client or you will face prosecution but when i spoke to her today she still said no but i found out my daughter was in school today as the grandmother had been keeping her off and i collected her so the grandmother has phoned the kids dad and hes gone to the grandmothers and picked up my son the dad has never had them he never sees them doesnt pay for them has 5 kids one on the way he has no home and hes on bail for drugs and looking at going to prison i have no idea where he lives i dont know what to do i just want my son back i know i will have to go to court but i need to know hes ok i cant even ring my kids have always lived with me iv done everythin my daughter has diabeties type 1 im worried hes going to go to my daughters school and collect her i have another solicitors appointment tomorrow

[cath07]

hi i feel like no one is listening to me the social services are involved because of me and my ex partner i asked them for help and instead of helping me they said they would take my kids if me and him resume our relationship my kids went to there grandmothers for the night and they refused to give them back i had phoned the police and social services and the social worker told the grandmother it was up to her if she wanted to give them back which i know is not right i finally got my daughter back from her school but the grandmother has phoned the dad and give my son to him because he has PR im very conserned as he never sees his kids and is on adrug charge and being questioned for attempted murder and smokes cannabis but my social worker wont do anything i dont know what to do my daughter is asking for my ex partner as she doesnt want to live with her dad the dad keeps threating to come down and get emily from her school im very concerened but my family has been broken up just because we asked for help and now my son is in real danger but no one is helping i have a solicitor and hes got a detective to find out where the dad lives i also have other major things going on in my life im worried i wont have my son back before christmas hes never been away from me this long what shall i do can i ask for a new social worker?

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Hello,

Welcome to the parents’ board. Just to let you know, as you have posted 2 posts which are about the same issue, I have put them both together in this one thread.

I’m sorry you are going through such a stressful situation. I’m just going to summarise what has happened to make sure I understand it correctly. You asked your children’s grandmother to look after your children for one night, whilst you visited your aunt. When you went to collect them the next day she refused to give them back. You contacted the police, Children’s Services (the new name for social services) and a solicitor. Eventually your daughter was returned to you but your son was sent to his dad’s house by his grandmother and he is still there. Is this right?

If this is the case, this is what’s called a private law matter, which means it is an issue between individuals, you and their father. Unfortunately we don’t give advice on private law matters at Family Rights Group. I would recommend you speak to your solicitor about making an urgent application to court for an order for dad to disclose your son’s whereabouts and to have your son returned to your care. The court can also first make an order to somebody else to disclose dad’s address to the court if they have it, for example Children’s Services or the Benefits Agency. This would mean the Court would know where to send the court papers to. You and your solicitor would need to discuss what will be quicker, going through that method or using a private detective.

You also said Children’s Services are continuing to be involved after you contacted them. We can give you advice about this. However you need to tell me what involvement they have with your children and what questions you have.

I will look out for your reply.

Best wishes

Suzie