Is there any hope? Any sucsess story's out there?

[princess27]

Previously written on here about my children well 2 are now in perm foster care and both kids can't handle the fact of there there untill there 18 I had problems managing there behaviours as they hurt me most times but out of blue I had knock on door for there removal last year, my partners family's past are mainly due as almost 30 years ago he commited an act of indecency towards a child (partners family are no relation to my kids) but ss believed he was thret (he had never even seen my kids) after CAF, child in need then child protection I've had enough the final hearing was just awful I had to agree or my other kids would get adopted out as I " don't see the risks" the ss told me! Now with other kids bk home and my kids with autism and adhd are away since this time I'm working with children AND adults with autism I've signed up to go to meetings and conferences and paid for them myself and I'm doing a lot more too so much I can't mention all but after recieving this information and working with people with autism will this help in any return of my other children I CAN meet there needs and my other childrens needs WILL be met I know it will I have so many hopes and dreams of this happening but sometimes think is it all just a waste? I do love the volunteer work and will continue to do it as I've always wanted to do it and my moto is "it's better to try and fail than to have never tried at all" but a lot of people in my life keep telling me "is it worth it " and "ss never give kids back" this was ss plans for my boys from day1 I just know it as with my other children I was allowed to go to appointments in the interim but with my boys they always made excuses like "we havnt had the dates through " and "we will have to check with the manager" then at a education planning meeting I was kindly told that he's already had it, I hold no grudge to the foster carer they do a fab job what they do but the ss always make me feel worthless. I admitted to smacking 1 of my sons once just once I felt horrid afterwards but that was 4 years ago never again! But my other son who has adhd told ss I hurt him he did this to get attention I think upsetting when I think if this but I did never hit him and do any of the other awful things he said he said to ss I hurt him by calling him names when I didn't all I did was mother them too much and I was a bit of a push over but I can't see why he said this as he's so young he's almost 8 now and been in care for 8 months now he says he's upset he only sees me so little my other son found out my mums moved home (too many memory's of the children and she was crying every day) he cried and said "everything is going bad for him" this was during a contact so I comforted him and changed the subject and said no nanas house is nicer and has a garden he seemed better but he's autistic and know he would have left feeling sad, they both now know my daughters are living with me on my own too and they said its not kind and the judge who won't let them come home is evil and nasty. I have a solicitor but there legal aid and not very possative no one is in my case I need to hear something possative

[ange301126]

Dear Princess27, I started a thread some time ago called GENERAL DISCUSSION,SUPPORT FOR PARENTS and your message is just the type which I wish parents would put up on it for discussion but very few come aboard at all.I wonder if you will consider transferring your message onto it.
Your message is very interesting to me because it raises the question of discrimination against children with autism and how easily badly managed,badly trained social workers can assess cases wrongly.For example , incontinence can be viewed wrongly as "smelly " and be counted as the fault of a parent. I have noticed quite a few cases on here and worry that the children are targeted illicitly.with all your experience and training in autism you could help by supporting other parents like I am trying to do and also help yourself get your children back in the long run.
With the greatest respect, ange 301126