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[Mummy1985]

Please can someone offer some help and support.
My brother has just found out that his partner is expecting his child and although he is 20 he is not ready to become a father and as sad as it sounds this is more of a casual and sometimes volatile relationship.
The expectant mother already has a child who is living with a foster mother as when she have birth social services told her that she must go to live in a foster placement and as long as she could prove that she was capable of looking after the baby and followed all rules set by social services then after the three months she would be able to go back to her home and live with the baby and my brother. This baby was not my brothers child but they met while she was pregnant and he decided to become the step parent. She did not follow rules set by social services and in the end after approx one month she let rip and had a huge argument with the foster mother and social services and was asked to leave without her child. The child is now 6 months old and although she is allowed a weekly visit there are no signs that she will be allowed the baby to live with her.
She has now said that she stands a better chance with the baby she is pregnant with and because the dad is living with her then the baby can too, she has said that this has come from social services. I'm inclined not to believe this as for a start social services have said that my brother is not to live at her address due to their arguments and surely you can not leave one child in care and have another with no problems?!
My concern is that my brothers child will not be cared for properly if left to live with her, she never has money, her home is filthy and without sounding bitchy or bitter she is a very unsavoury person.
I have a son who lives with me, I have never had dealings with social services and although I am a single parent I work and provide for my son who is now 6. I am almost 30 so no young bitter mother but I would like to be able to have my brothers baby live with is once it's born rather than go into care.
Can anyone shed some light on what may happen once the child is born regarding social services please?

[blueplain]

he is not ready to become a father

Unfortunatly he is going to be a father so he will have to get ready very soon. It is not the childs fault that he had unprotected sex and not be ready to provide for the cosequences. Sorry had to say that, I am a nice guy but in my books there is no such thing as not being ready to be a father. He needs to step up and be the best father possible.

surely you can not leave one child in care and have another with no problems?!

Depending on the children services investigation it is possible to keep hold of a child even if you have lost a child in the past.

My concern is that my brothers child will not be cared for properly if left to live with her

Report your concerns with children services and they will investigate. That way your concerns will be delt with because they will have a plan in place ready for the birth.

Can anyone shed some light on what may happen once the child is born regarding social services please?

If they have instigated children services or they have been reported, then children services will investigation and determin what should happen when the child is born. The mother is also given a chance to improve her situation with any concerns raised. They also could decide to put the child into short/long term foster care or place the child with other family members.

[ange301126]

Dear mummy1985, your brother should cover himself by making a parental responsibility agreement with mother immediately the baby is born and register it at the HIgh Court.
To protect the child even more, ask mum to make one with you aswell.THe baby is paramount and should be kept with family.FRG advice sheets tell you how to go about it,I think

[ange301126]

You get a form from the registry office,fill it in,get mother to sign it and post it off with a small fee. Mum should do it for her baby having already lost one child to foster care.You do your best not to antagonize her and to support her fully, she is the childs mum no matter how unpromising the relationship seems to be at this moment.At this time you,your brother and her should stick together for the child.