parental assessment

[Askmelater]

Hi just another question I have all my children and I have to do a assessment. But what happens if u fail it ? What baring dose the abuse I suffered by my biological father at the age of 2have to do with my kids I have not seen this man in 27 years and now they want to contact him and Idont get why.

[ange301126]

Dear Askmelater, what sort of assessment is it? Risk or parenting? Suzie will be able to tell you but you must not worry, you don't pass or fail them the CS just have a duty to assess how they can support you that's all.
By the way, did you manage to retract the police statement okay?

[Askmelater]

Hi they want to assess how I cope with 5 children and my mental state after everything that had happens and how I would protect my children from harm. No as for the statement my solicitor has said if I try to retract it then social will take it that I am failing to protect my kids. This is all such mess

[ange301126]

Dear Askmelater, Never mind about what the CS think.If you have made a false statement (lied) to the police this is perverting the course of justice and you could get three years gaol for it.So might your solicitor.You had better go to the police immediately and take it back.If you do it could be the beginning to solving all your problems and your family being reunited. Openness and honesty always pays with the police and I doubt if you will get in trouble if you come out with the truth.

Anyway,this forum is anonymous and you can be open on here as long as you don't write real names.What did you accuse him of but most important of all,who made you say it? Don't worry.'

About the children, how old are they and which one is the ringleader?Again , what are they threatening to report you for?

[Askmelater]

Hi it was not a statement blaming anyone of anything it was about how I feel my life has been going the police said it was a informal chat. Now they say it is being played as evidence.they asked me a few things about the kids dad about what the kids have said but I answered them honesty and said no i have never seen anything.. They wanted to try and get him for domestic abuse as well.

[ange301126]

Dear Askmelater, as you say it is a mess.But the FRG is here to help and support you and sort it all out.Has the social worker offered you any support at all while your husband is away?It is their duty to do so.Five children must be terribly difficult for you to handle in the circumstances.What support from family can you call upon? If you can't get help from friends or relations, why not show you are a good mother,able to think straight and protect your children and ask for a home support worker in writing?.Ask for a reply in writing.,Get a friend or ask your husband when you see him.I presume you are allowed to see him.

What have the children told them your husband has done?.Are they telling fibs to get what they want and they are now threatening to do the same to you. Tell us and a parent or Suzie will advise you what to do.

Tell me which child is the ringleader.Is it the eldest one?

The CS are wrong to make your husband leave home without a court order and without knowing all the facts! They have exceeded their powers,I'm afraid and now you and the children are suffering for it.We see it all the time here. I am sure it will be alright in the end.Stay strong.