sexual risk assesment

[dvsurvivor]

A proffesinol sexual risk assesment was first recommended and put in the CP plan for my little girl 7 months ago. It is only being started at end of this month. My ex kept putting hurdles in the way like "you can't do it until you got theses court papers or that paper work etc". Now all info is through the assesment on my ex husband is going to be done at long last. He sexually abused my older daughter from my first marrige, he sexually abused a girl for 4 years then raped her and has also made sexually innapropiate comments to children. Including his own children from previous relationships. What do they do in tHese sexual risk assesments and how can the pscologist know that the person they are assesing is lying? Because I know my ex husband will lie throUgh his teeth. Either he will have to be a rely good liar[which he already is] Or hopefully they will see right through him for what he rely is. A perpetrator and a risk to children.
He kept my little girl after contact. She is on CP as at risk being with him. She is on a PLO well has been for 7 months now. No care proceedings ever started. So what will happen once assesment is done? Will they hand my little girl back to me once they find out he a risk or put her in temporary foster care?

[ange301126]

Dear dvsurvivor,

I do not usually like to be overly critical of the CS ; after all they have to be shown some respect; but I feel I should warn you in no uncertain terms about the department because of the serious issues you have described.

Given all the recent publicity of cases where sw's and Police Officers have systematically ignored,denied and covered up the sexual abuse of innocent children to the point of turning their backs on victims themselves who make complaints, you shouldn't play along with their charades.

I regret having to denounce the department so definitely but the truth was described clearly on the news this morning just before writing.

For the sake of your little one, if you have genuine fears, I advise you to approach a neighbouring Police Force (independent of your own Local Authority), report to it all about your ex's previous record,comments etc.etc. and also report the sw's and local Police which appear to collabourate with him.Also try contacting the CHILDLINE and NSPCC.

The odds are that your CS dept. is dysfunctional as so many others especially when one considers the delay and time it is taking to do the so- called 'sexual risk assessment' ( ordered 7 months ago).
As far as handing her back or placing her in foster-care is concerned, they are more likely to leave her where she is!
Don't hold your breath on the sw's ever doing a proficient risk assessment.It will be in vain.
They are more likely to be covering any risk up for their own reasons.Who knows what these bureacrats get out of turning a blind eye and ignoring their responsibilities? An easier life,profit perhaps.

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear DVsurvivor,

You ask what the assessment will entail.
To get detailed information I suggest you contact the
Lucy Faithfull Foundation who specialise in risk assessments –where sexual abuse is a concern and support services to families where children have suffered sexual abuse or are at risk of sexual abuse.

You ask about your little girl coming to live back with you. What was the outcome of your parenting assessment? Has it been completed yet?

Best wishes,

Suzie

[dvsurvivor]

The SW never did a parenting assesment on me. He wouldn't let her well he stopped her and the SW went along with it. Even though it says in CP plan and CORE plan for me to have one it was never done. The said reasons for it not being done are as follows. He lies to the SW saying that a victim he violently attacked admitted to court that the only reason he went to police about his attack was to help me get my daughter back. Yes my ex violently attacked someone, was on trial at crown court. Their was video footage of him kicking and punching his victim and 3 witnesses saw it happen. Guess what he found "not guilty". And he useing this as a reason for me not to be assesed and the SW agreed. Because apparantly I told the victim to go to the police and that is why my ex was arrested and went through court. What it has to do with me I don't know! Apart from the victim he attacked is my grandsons father! I just don't get it. Why is she going along with him? She is not doing her job properly. I'm scared to complain incase she turns even more against me. She is also agreeing now with him that the contact I have with my little girl of just 2 hours every 2 weeks is fine and I not allowed to show my little girl photos of her bedroom I'm doing for her because "apparantly"" this puts her under pressure. And I'm not to disscuss what I'm doing in her room for her!
This is my little girl left with a child sex offender!! He may not of been convicted but he has deffinetly offended.

[ange301126]

If the sw was told to do a parenting assessment of you but has not done so,was ordered to do a risk assessment of your ex but hasn't done so after seven months and has ignored correct procedures in other respects too, it suggests to me she is dishonest and/or wishes to sweep the truth under the carpet.If she is dishonest,then she should be made subject to an independent Police investigation.Where does it all stop? If she is covering-up for an abuser, is she exploiting the child too? The potential risk of harm to your child should have been assessed at least 7 months ago!
There is no excuse.

[dvsurvivor]

I have said all this at the PLO. I said she is failling to protect my daughter. I went to a newspaper. Unfortunetly my housing support worker was at mine when I recived the phone call from the reporter. She went on to inform my little girls SW. So the SW bought it up at a PLO meeting and threatend me with a gagging order if I went to the media about the SWs failings. I was also threatend by my 2 boys [who live with me] who are on a CIN by their SW to put them on a CP plan for emotinol abuse if I went to the newspapers its discussting that all they want to do is cover up were they go wrong. I just want to go get my little girl from school. She been with him almost 19 months now. I have PR. I'm her mother my gutt instinct is to go get her. Surely the school can't refuse.

[ange301126]

Dear dvsurvivor,
I don't know a lot about gagging orders but I do know that they are often used by wrongdoers to stop whistle-blowing. To prevent the truth getting out. I would ask the newspaper concerned for advice.I doubt if they can gag you but I think they can bring a 'gagging' order against a newspaper to stop printing.
I would say "Bring it on".

If there are family court proceedings in progress then I think you are already forbidden to disclose documents or do anything which may lead to the identities of your children being revealed.Newspapers are generally aware of that and use pseudonyms.

It seems to me it is about RIGHT and WRONG.
Your aim is to protect your daughter and the CS is wrong not to safeguard her and to cover up the potential problem.Too many months of inaction have gone by already! Is this another tragedy unfolding ( like Baby P or Victoria Climbie)? You accuse the sw's of not doing their jobs properly which retrospective enquiries show caused those disasters. You can't force them to do it alone and you are right to seek help and publicity.
Can the FRG intervene? I don't know. I can only advise you again to consult the National childline and the NSPCC and the Police.If the Local Authority are putting your daughter in danger,something has to be done urgently.
They may be able to advise you re- taking the child from school.

[dvsurvivor]

All the police did was pass my concerns to the LA SS!! I will call NSPCC as I have emailed them in the past and all rhey did was pass my concerns to my LA. Its my LA that's the problem because they are not doing anything. I am seeing my solicitor to see if we can do anything. I'm feeling so frustrated, upset, powerless and useless.

[dvsurvivor]

PS. Their are no court cases going on at present but will be soon.

[ange301126]

Dear dvsurvivor,The problem is that the CS will be telling everyone else that you are paranoid,have a personality disorder,will not accept concerns etc.etc. and that you are wrong and they are right!

Whose word are the others going to take? Yours or theirs.

If you have genuine concerns,then I suppose you have to take rock-solid evidence to an independent Police force.

Like I said, these cover-ups are happening nationwide; local authorities are right now being outed and revealed as the incompetents they are as are Police chiefs.

Yet still it is happening and the NSPCC simply referred your concerns to the CS! OMG!