my daughter has nightmares after seeing her dad
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siobhan1990
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my daughter has nightmares after seeing her dad
my daughter is 3 years old since before her 2nd birthday she has been with my sister as social took her away but im not getting into that her dad had never seen her as he was in prison till she was 1 and didnt care about her till i had her taken away he first met her in november 2011 and since he met her she has been having nightmares, being naughty, wetting the bed at night wetting her self in the day social services no about it but havent done anything and i dont no how to help her as shes 3 and cant tell me what is wrong can you please help me xxxx
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: my daughter has nightmares after seeing her dad
Hi Siobhan
My name is Suzie, I am an advisor here at Family Rights Group. Thanks for posting on our board. I’m sorry to hear about the situation you describe – that sounds really hard. Have you talked about it with your sister? If she is looking after your daughter, she must have opinions about this. Is your daughter in Nursery? Do you know if the nursery has any concerns about her? Also, you say the social worker isn’t worried about the change in your daughter’s behaviour. But you didn’t say what the social worker’s role is in your family. Is your daughter getting some social work help? Is she formally placed with your sister, so that your sister is her foster carer? Did you go to court over where your daughter would live? If your daughter is “in care”, then she should have a “care plan.” Problems around contact with her father should be part of the care plan.
Maybe you could raise these concerns again, and see if you can get the social worker to take this more seriously. If the social worker doesn’t agree, you can always ask to see the manager, or even make a complaint. If you daughter is “in care” you can raise this with the person in charge of reviewing her “care plans” – the Independent Reviewing Officer. Ideally, what you would want would be for someone to assess the situation, to decide if the contact with her father is harmful in any way, and if so, what should be done to manage that harm.
Are you wanting to stop the contact with your daughter’s father? I won’t say more about that now, as I am not sure if that is something you are thinking about.
Please do get back in touch with us if you want to discuss any of this further.
All the best,
Suzie
My name is Suzie, I am an advisor here at Family Rights Group. Thanks for posting on our board. I’m sorry to hear about the situation you describe – that sounds really hard. Have you talked about it with your sister? If she is looking after your daughter, she must have opinions about this. Is your daughter in Nursery? Do you know if the nursery has any concerns about her? Also, you say the social worker isn’t worried about the change in your daughter’s behaviour. But you didn’t say what the social worker’s role is in your family. Is your daughter getting some social work help? Is she formally placed with your sister, so that your sister is her foster carer? Did you go to court over where your daughter would live? If your daughter is “in care”, then she should have a “care plan.” Problems around contact with her father should be part of the care plan.
Maybe you could raise these concerns again, and see if you can get the social worker to take this more seriously. If the social worker doesn’t agree, you can always ask to see the manager, or even make a complaint. If you daughter is “in care” you can raise this with the person in charge of reviewing her “care plans” – the Independent Reviewing Officer. Ideally, what you would want would be for someone to assess the situation, to decide if the contact with her father is harmful in any way, and if so, what should be done to manage that harm.
Are you wanting to stop the contact with your daughter’s father? I won’t say more about that now, as I am not sure if that is something you are thinking about.
Please do get back in touch with us if you want to discuss any of this further.
All the best,
Suzie
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