please help

[s900]

hi i had my kids taking from me 10 years ago but our eldest we have seen for a few years because the family member she was staying with broke down for of her anger and we are the only ones getting blamed for her not being the family and being in care homes she wasn't exactly treated fairly with this family so why are we the ones to get all the blame

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear S900,

Welcome back to the parents forum. I am sorry it has taken me some time to respond.

I am sorry that you are being blamed for the difficulties that your eldest daughter seems to be having at the moment. I can see that it is not helpful for people to blame others.

Instead, it may be better for your daughter that she is gets the support she needs to help her understand her anger and learn how to manage it?

If you still need advice about your daughter, please post back.

Best wishes,

Suzie