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[PuzzledSkirt]

Hi. Burner account. I have recently separated from my wife (still married though) an dim concerned about my daughter. My wife has been seeing someone, either friend or romantic its not clear but not relevant anyway, and this man apparently has a criminal record. I was told by my wife it was over a false claim but its still there because he did prison time, however everything else I have been told/found says it should not only have been cleared if it was false and shouldn't be on his record, but also he shouldn't have gone to prison straight away if it was a first offense.

I want to call child services to see if I can get more concrete information about this but I want to avoid another massive blowout at home about this. If I call social services about this man will he be made aware?

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Puzzledskirt

Thank you for your post and welcome to the discussion board. My name is Suzie, I am an online adviser and will be responding to you today.

You have recently separated from your wife and have concerns about your daughter being in contact with a person whom your wife has struck up a friendship with. You say you have been informed this person has a criminal conviction. You are considering contacting children’s services to raise your concerns but are worried about the possible impact of this on family relationships.

It would be a good idea to contact children’s services, contact details will be located within your local authority, to seek further guidance regarding the alleged allegations. They may or may not be linked to child welfare issues. You can inform children’s services you are the father of the child but wish to remain anonymous or you can contact them completely anonymous to raise your concerns. Equally, you can contact the NSPCC anonymously and if appropriate they will refer to children’s services.

You may also wish to make an application for Clare’s Law. Clare's Law, also known as the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme, enables the police to disclose information about a partner's or ex-partner's violent or abusive past. Please see the link HERE .

Under Clare's Law you can:
• apply for information about your current or ex-partner because you're worried they may have a history of abuse and are a risk to you
• request information about the current or ex-partner of a friend or relative because you're worried they might be at risk

Further, The Child Sex Offender Disclosure Scheme, also known as Sarah’s Law, lets those who care for young people find out if a person has a record for child sexual offences. Please refer HERE for further information and advice about this service.
I hope you find this information helpful. There are many different ways to contact Family Rights Group if you seek further advice in the future regarding children’s services :

• A free telephone advice line open Monday to Friday between 9.30am and 3pm (excluding Bank Holidays) on 0808 801 0366
• Easy-to-follow online information. Features include an A-Z, FAQs, films, ‘top tips’ and legal advice sheets;
• Online forums where families can receive advice, discuss issues, and find support;
• A webchat service where you can message an adviser online, who will help you find information and advice to support you.

Best wishes, Suzie