Evening
I looking for some advice and mainly help. Me and my partner have been together for over 7 years and never had any issues at all untill christmas last year. Story was i was arrested due to my mrs hitting me in a arguement and in defence i pushed her away and was charged for assualt by none battery what if i was honest i thought it was taken to far by the CPS just exculated and they bailed me stopped me from seeing my kids for 28 days till court etc in a nut shell they turned my world upside down.
Standard stuff SS where called they came out to see my partner she expalined there was no need and no more was said. To confirm i have 2 kids whats 9 year old boy (step son) my little girl aged 1. My Step sons father has never liked me and caused issues over us getting back together since it happend. Around 4 weeks ago i was at home and these 2 people showed up at the house and explained that they had concerned for the 9 years old wellbeing them being SS, again social did there assement and deemd to be safe happy etc Two days before the kids break up for school the 9 year old lad informed up that SS been into his school with no notice to us and alone interviewed the kid without an adult? Its this right ? We raised our concerns with the SS and that we was not happy but advised us it standard procedure.
Fast forward another week (last week) the 9 year old takes a facetime call from his dad while my partner was at work and i was looking after the kids. The 9 year old on his xbox as most kids do and the little one was with me while in her pram outside . Now as a living i sell cars from home and at the time i had a customer collecting a car and i was outside no more that 20 meters away from my home. The 9 year old has taken this facetime call from his dad and walked around the house to show his dad while his dad recored it that no one was in the house at the time. I advised i would be out side if he needed me etc Unfortanalty while on the phone he turned round to his dad and said hes home alone and no ones in when if you looked out the window you would of seen me. His dads recored this and showed it to SS and they have said that it a form of neglect and because of my DV Conviction there saying i a high risk what i thinks a joke.
SS are now stating that i have neglected him and there getting a family meeting put in place next wednesday and if we dont work with them Child protection plan with be put in place asap.social worker is very rude towards us and we have logged a complaint regarding his attitude towards us but what i worried about that there targetting me
can anyone advise on there findings or what i should do ?
Cheers
DV now social worker involved over false allegation
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Jord77
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KatKat10
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Re: DV now social worker involved over false allegation
Jord77, has your stepson realized the impact of saying he was home alone?
Do you have any outside CCTV, ring door bell that can time stamp that you were outside at the same time as the phone call. Do your neighbors have any CCTV footage? Can the customer give a witness statement?
Do you have any outside CCTV, ring door bell that can time stamp that you were outside at the same time as the phone call. Do your neighbors have any CCTV footage? Can the customer give a witness statement?
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: DV now social worker involved over false allegation
Dear Jord,
Welcome the parents' board and thank you for your post.
You say that you and your partner have been together for over 7 years. Last Christmas, you were arrested for assault following an argument with your partner. You were put on bail for 28 days and this stopped you from seeing your children. A referral was made to children's services. You have a 9 year old step-so and a daughter, aged 1. 4 weeks ago, children's services arrived at your home and explained that they had concerns for your son; you say that they did an assessment and that they said he was safe and happy. Prior to the summer break, your stepson informed you that children's services had been to the school to speak to him alone. You have raised this with children's services who state that it is standard procedure. Last week, your stepson informed his father on facetime that he was home alone - his father recorded this and informed children's services, who have stated that this is a form of neglect and that due to your conviction for domestic abuse, you are high risk. You deny this and say that you were a short distance from the home. You say that there is going to be a family meeting next Wednesday and that you have been told if you do not work with children's services, a child protection plan will be put in place. You have also lodge a complaint against the social worker and say that you are worried he is targeting you.
Firstly, it appears that children's services have concerns about the risk that you pose to the children in the home. They are concerned about this because you have been convicted of assault - hearing or witnessing domestic abuse in the home can be frightening for children and can cause physical and/or emotional harm. They are also worried about the fact that your son was left unsupervised in the home - whilst you say you were nearby, they will be concerned that no-one was directly supervising the child and that he could have come to harm as a result of this. It is important that you understand these concerns and show insight into why such things may be a risk to children.
You mention that your stepson was spoken to alone without informing his mother. I am not clear from your post whether this happened during an assessment period or if your stepson was already on some form of plan? Nevertheless, the statutory guidance states that children should be seen alone wherever possible. Consent should be sought from a parent as standard practice unless if asking permission would put a child at further risk. The sort of situation in which a parent’s permission might not be asked is when there are joint police and children’s services’ enquiries and:
- The police and children’s services are concerned that a possible victim of abuse (e.g. the child) might be threatened into silence
- There is a strong likelihood that important evidence may be destroyed, or
- The child does not want their parent and carer involved and is able to make that decision.
I am not clear what you mean by a family meeting. Children's services may initiate child protection enquiries if they become worried that the children have suffered significant harm or are at risk of suffering significant harm. You can read more about this here. It is important that you now work with them to understand their concerns and what steps you and your partner can take to evidence that you can keep both children safe in order to avoid the case escalating. They may want you to engage with specific services, such as a perpetrators programme or parenting classes.
It seems from your post that you are having some issues working with the social worker. It is always preferable to have a good working relationship with your social worker in order to work towards shared outcomes. You may find it helpful to read our guide on working with a social worker here.
Best wishes,
Suzie.
Welcome the parents' board and thank you for your post.
You say that you and your partner have been together for over 7 years. Last Christmas, you were arrested for assault following an argument with your partner. You were put on bail for 28 days and this stopped you from seeing your children. A referral was made to children's services. You have a 9 year old step-so and a daughter, aged 1. 4 weeks ago, children's services arrived at your home and explained that they had concerns for your son; you say that they did an assessment and that they said he was safe and happy. Prior to the summer break, your stepson informed you that children's services had been to the school to speak to him alone. You have raised this with children's services who state that it is standard procedure. Last week, your stepson informed his father on facetime that he was home alone - his father recorded this and informed children's services, who have stated that this is a form of neglect and that due to your conviction for domestic abuse, you are high risk. You deny this and say that you were a short distance from the home. You say that there is going to be a family meeting next Wednesday and that you have been told if you do not work with children's services, a child protection plan will be put in place. You have also lodge a complaint against the social worker and say that you are worried he is targeting you.
Firstly, it appears that children's services have concerns about the risk that you pose to the children in the home. They are concerned about this because you have been convicted of assault - hearing or witnessing domestic abuse in the home can be frightening for children and can cause physical and/or emotional harm. They are also worried about the fact that your son was left unsupervised in the home - whilst you say you were nearby, they will be concerned that no-one was directly supervising the child and that he could have come to harm as a result of this. It is important that you understand these concerns and show insight into why such things may be a risk to children.
You mention that your stepson was spoken to alone without informing his mother. I am not clear from your post whether this happened during an assessment period or if your stepson was already on some form of plan? Nevertheless, the statutory guidance states that children should be seen alone wherever possible. Consent should be sought from a parent as standard practice unless if asking permission would put a child at further risk. The sort of situation in which a parent’s permission might not be asked is when there are joint police and children’s services’ enquiries and:
- The police and children’s services are concerned that a possible victim of abuse (e.g. the child) might be threatened into silence
- There is a strong likelihood that important evidence may be destroyed, or
- The child does not want their parent and carer involved and is able to make that decision.
I am not clear what you mean by a family meeting. Children's services may initiate child protection enquiries if they become worried that the children have suffered significant harm or are at risk of suffering significant harm. You can read more about this here. It is important that you now work with them to understand their concerns and what steps you and your partner can take to evidence that you can keep both children safe in order to avoid the case escalating. They may want you to engage with specific services, such as a perpetrators programme or parenting classes.
It seems from your post that you are having some issues working with the social worker. It is always preferable to have a good working relationship with your social worker in order to work towards shared outcomes. You may find it helpful to read our guide on working with a social worker here.
Best wishes,
Suzie.
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