Hi me and my partner split up due to circumstances between us
Social services have come in and said becuase she has a child and it’s due to domestic violence we aren’t aloud to be together and stopping us from being together. They say if we get back together he will be taken from her . Is this correct ? I’m not the child’s father but have been involved in his life for 2 years and nothing like this has happened before .
there was nothing serious that went on just a argument when we was both drunk and I had to restrain her as she hit me he wasn’t present when all this happened he was at his fathers house and nothing has ever happened in front of him.
Can anyone give us advice on what we can do and if social services can stop us being together and if we are together will he be taken away from her ?
Social services
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Skinners2022
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Re: Social services
Skinners2022 wrote: Thu Sep 29, 2022 7:13 pm Hi me and my partner split up due to circumstances between us
Social services have come in and said becuase she has a child and it’s due to domestic violence we aren’t aloud to be together and stopping us from being together. They say if we get back together he will be taken from her . Is this correct ? I’m not the child’s father but have been involved in his life for 2 years and nothing like this has happened before .
there was nothing serious that went on just a argument when we was both drunk and I had to restrain her as she hit me he wasn’t present when all this happened he was at his fathers house and nothing has ever happened in front of him.
Can anyone give us advice on what we can do and if social services can stop us being together and if we are together will he be taken away from her ?
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Suzie, FRG Adviser
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Re: Social services
Dear Skinners2022,
Welcome to the parents forum and thank you for your post. I hope that the following advice is of some help to you.
You say that there was an incidence of domestic violence between you and your partner which has resulted in children’s services involvement. You and your partner have separated and children’s services have advised her to remain separated from you. You are not the child’s father and you would like to know what children’s services powers are and what the consequences of you resuming your relationship might be.
Firstly it is important to explain that children’s services take incidents of domestic violence very seriously as research shows that children can suffer long term if they witness domestic violence incidents. As well as this, research shows that families may live with domestic abuse for a significant period of time before it is reported. Although you say that the child was not present during this incident, the social worker and other professionals will have reasonable concerns that the child may be at risk of witnessing violent incidents in the future if you continue your relationship. You can find more information about children’s services involvement when there are concerns about domestic violence on our website HERE.
You ask whether children’s services can stop you from being in a relationship with the child’s mother. Children’s services can make recommendations to the mother, including a recommendation that she ends her relationship with you, however they have no legal jurisdiction to enforce this. Ultimately it is up to the mother to decide whether she wants to go against their recommendation. However she should be clear about the possible consequences if she decides to resume her relationship with you. This could include children’s services initiating the child protection process or possibly care proceedings. If children’s services make an application to the family court then the judge may grant an order (for example an interim care order) which gives children’s services parental responsibility. Children’s services can then make the decision to remove the child from the mother’s care if they feel this is necessary.
I hope that this is of some help. Please post again if you have any further queries, or you can call our free helpline on 0808 801 0366 (Monday to Friday, 9:30am – 3pm) to speak with an adviser in more detail.
Best wishes,
Suzie
Welcome to the parents forum and thank you for your post. I hope that the following advice is of some help to you.
You say that there was an incidence of domestic violence between you and your partner which has resulted in children’s services involvement. You and your partner have separated and children’s services have advised her to remain separated from you. You are not the child’s father and you would like to know what children’s services powers are and what the consequences of you resuming your relationship might be.
Firstly it is important to explain that children’s services take incidents of domestic violence very seriously as research shows that children can suffer long term if they witness domestic violence incidents. As well as this, research shows that families may live with domestic abuse for a significant period of time before it is reported. Although you say that the child was not present during this incident, the social worker and other professionals will have reasonable concerns that the child may be at risk of witnessing violent incidents in the future if you continue your relationship. You can find more information about children’s services involvement when there are concerns about domestic violence on our website HERE.
You ask whether children’s services can stop you from being in a relationship with the child’s mother. Children’s services can make recommendations to the mother, including a recommendation that she ends her relationship with you, however they have no legal jurisdiction to enforce this. Ultimately it is up to the mother to decide whether she wants to go against their recommendation. However she should be clear about the possible consequences if she decides to resume her relationship with you. This could include children’s services initiating the child protection process or possibly care proceedings. If children’s services make an application to the family court then the judge may grant an order (for example an interim care order) which gives children’s services parental responsibility. Children’s services can then make the decision to remove the child from the mother’s care if they feel this is necessary.
I hope that this is of some help. Please post again if you have any further queries, or you can call our free helpline on 0808 801 0366 (Monday to Friday, 9:30am – 3pm) to speak with an adviser in more detail.
Best wishes,
Suzie
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