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hi I'm new here
I have got a problem with our son who's kids we are looking after under a SGO 2 of them are over 18 now and the other 2 are 17 & 12
the problem we are having is that the council have decided to move the birth parents 200yrds away from our home and now the 2 older ones have moved back in with them as they are allowed to do what the hell they want over there like smoke drug n drink Ect
now I'm having abuse from him and it is making me very anxious and I'm worried for the 2 younger children well fair so does any one know what I can do about this also the mother lives at the one bedroom flat and the father is not meant to be there
I have had our last SW boss tell the council that this is wrong but they still went ahead and moved the mother there
really don't know what to do now
thanks for taking the time to read this x

Hello @sm2259 and welcome to the forum.

I am not sure what advice to give you apart from:
1. Start a formal complaint by writing to the Chief Executive (name will be on the web-site). Make sure you copy your local councillor, details of which should also be on the web-site.
2. If that fails, I suggest contact your MP through https://members.parliament.uk/FindYourMP. They should take up your case with the official support you have.

@Suzie, the FRG advisor may have better suggestions.

Good luck ... Robin

Dear sm2259

Welcome to the kinship carers’ board. Thank you for your post. My name is Suzie. I am Family Rights Group’s online adviser.

I am sorry to hear about your difficult family situation.

You are special guardians for your 12- and 17-year-old grandchildren. You also cared for their older (now adult) siblings under a special guardianship order.

You are very worried as your grandchildren’s mother has been rehoused by the council to a property close to your home. Your son is also staying there although you say he is not meant to. I am guessing this means that he is not named on the tenancy. Perhaps there are also domestic violence concerns which mean he should not live with the children’s mother.

Your older grandchildren have moved back in with their parents. Your son is being abusive to you. Understandably, you are concerned about how this will affect your younger grandchildren.

You notified children’s services of the concerns you had about this before the parents moved in. They did alert the Housing Department but unfortunately, this did not change the decision to rehouse the children’s mother near you.

You are wondering what you can do about this stressful and risky situation.

Another kinship carer, Robin, has provided some useful advice which is worth pursuing.

You and the children have a right to be safe from abuse. If you feel or threatened by your son, you can:

• Report this to the police,
• Get advice/support from a domestic abuse service or
• Consult with a lawyer about the possibility of applying for a non-molestation order (please see here for more information) and notify the Housing department.
• If the children’s mother is in breach of her tenancy agreement or there is anti-social behaviour at the property, then Housing would need to investigate.

You could get some housing advice too from Shelter to clarify if there are any housing solutions.

You can also contact the Special Guardianship Support team for more support. And if you are worried that the children could be harmed or need some help due to this situation you could ask children’s services to do a child in need assessment.

It is unfortunate that your concerns were not taken into consideration when the housing department offered the tenancy to the children’s mother. Robin’s recommendations provide a strategy to flag this and seek a response.

I am sorry there is nothing else I can suggest now.

If you have any further queries about children’s services then please post back or contact the service again via one of the other options linked to here.

I hope this helps.

Best wishes