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Right so alot of my posts some time ago now we're confusing even to myself because of lack of information from social services. Cut a long story short in December 2016 social services tried forcing me to sign my baby over to them for adoption and for my son who was 7 at that time to be taken into care. 6 years on i still have my children at home with me. I have had to fight to keep my children for reasons that were false. Over the years the corrupt system as nearly broke me and my children. The trauma and anxiety they have caused is very sad. I believe due to me being a single living alone with my young children and have no other family. I have been bullied unfairly treated to be told in family courts with no legal representative and unable to speak my mind that my children could be taken from is heart breaking. Social services have tried on several occasions to take my children from me. Every order in court they have tried and thankfully have not succeeded. So my reason for this post is basically to tell people that forced adoption from a loving parent is not a thing of the past like the 1970's this happened to me in 2016. And i still remain to Seek help to finding justice. This is not what should be happening from a list of false allegations that have come from where when they nasty so called caring for children people them self's have obviously written these letters themselves because before that day in 2016 they had no involvement in my life. I had never before they tried stealing my baby birth seen any of them people in my life. They lasted a few months in our life's but the damage and lies they caused carried on to the next sw and on and about 15 different sw and every time your sadly back to the beginning. I have witnessed corruption on every angle of this money making scandal. This is a true story.

Dear Frazor

Thank you for your post, my name is Suzie, I am an online adviser and will be responding to your post today.

I am sorry to hear of your experiences with children’s services. Children’s services should be working with families to offer support and guidance and when necessary to protect children from significant harm or likely significant harm. I have added a document HERE which provides information and guidance regarding this.

From the information provided you have worked hard to keep your children safe and well cared for. Unsurprisingly, at times this has been a struggle and you feel you and your children have experienced anxiety and trauma from the experience. I would suggest, you contact your GP if you feel you or your children need support to process your experiences. Further, you children's schools may also offer pastoral support which you may wish to discuss with them.

You can also self-refer to Talking Therapies . Talking therapies can help you with anxiety, stress and depression. Which therapy you are offered depends on which one has been shown to be most helpful for your symptoms.

You say you feel ‘bullied’ by children’s Services. You may wish to make a formal if you feel they have not acted with due care and respect when intervening in family life. I have added a link HERE which you may find helpful. It is a link to our complaints information. It provides information and guidance on how to make an initial complaint, the stages of complaints and how to progress if you are not satisfied with the outcome.

You say you had no legal representative during care proceedings. Parents or carers who hold parental responsibility are entitled to free legal aid. I have added a link HERE to our care are related proceedings information which discuss this, and other matters related to care proceedings. This includes, law, legislation and children’s services duties and responsibilities when working with families.

I hope the information provide has been helpful to you. If you would like to speak to an adviser, please call our freephone advice helpline on 0808 8010366 (Mon – Fri, 9.30 am to 3.00 pm). Or, of course, you can post again on here.

Best wishes, Suzie

Hello suzie thank you very much for your helpful response and taking your time on getting back to me.

Frazor, I am not surprised by anything you have said in your post, as I have witnessed the same sort of behaviour from Social Workers and the police and don't get me started on the gaslighting. Glad to hear you still have your children. Makes you wonder what motivates a SW to take someone's child and force through adoption. Follow the money.....................

@frazor sorry to hear your troubles, I have the same cruel dishonesty happening to me AWS cant say too much as Im going to court soon for the fight of my life to keep my kids 2 and 3yrs. SW have tried 3 time to seize my kids in court and failed through lack of evidence. Every time they blatantly falsify allegations, make mistakes, lie to the judge every dirty trick - gaslighting , turning up unannounced when they know the kids are at school and try to bully me. I have my mum to help me but they have maliciously spoiled her application for an SGO by making a grossly false accusation that she is some kind of dissolute drug taking prostitute - nothing could be further from the truth. But my mum and our extended family are all very supportive and honest working people. My I suggest your Title here be updated to "Forced adoption in 2025"

I cant understand what the motivation is for Public Servants behaving in such a malicious and cruel manner WHY?????. Its the poor little kids who will be damaged for their lives.

Dear veryabusedmum,

Thank you for your recent posts and welcome to the parents’ forum. I am Suzie, an online adviser responding to you today. I will reply to both of your posts here.

I am sorry to hear about your difficult experiences with children’s services. I am glad to hear that you have support from your mother.

You mention that your mother has applied to be assessed as a possible long-term carer for your children, but this has not been successful. I am not sure if your mother wishes to appeal that decision or whether she is in the time frames to do so but I want to draw your attention to Family Rights Group template letter that she could use to appeal the decision. You can link to it here.
Please look at letter 3.

Family Rights Group also have a guide to good practice for initial friends and family assessments which you can read here.

You mention that you are in court soon. It sounds like your children are in care proceedings. You can read more about care proceedings here.
As you are aware it is the court that makes the final decisions not the local authority so it is important to meet regularly with your solicitor and discuss whether there are any further assessments that could take place to assist the court in deciding on the best outcome for the children. The following guide to working with a solicitor may be helpful here.

The children’s guardian is an independent social worker appointed by the court to make recommendations in the children’s best interests and you should make sure you have a chance to speak with them. You can read more about the role of the children’s guardian here.

You feel that social workers are behaving unfairly to you and your family in the way they are performing their child protection role. You can read about child protection practice here to find out more about how a social worker’s duties and how they should conduct their interactions. You can also read more about working with social workers here.

There is information about the complaints process below.

In response to your feelings about the motivations of children’s services I can only respond that people will always have different opinions about children’s social care standards of practice; and the fairness and integrity of the child welfare system. These views can be based on personal experiences or based on the experiences of others via news media or personal contact.
Respectful disagreement can lead to useful conversations.
It is important to bear in mind that there are many ways of expressing your views and comments.

• Posting on this forum

• Using the children’s services complaints procedure here.

• Contacting your local councillor here.

• Contacting your local mp here.

• Staying aware of campaigns to reform the child welfare system. There are regular updates on the Family Rights Group website about our current campaigns here.

Please be aware that Social Work England is the regulatory body for social workers and you can offer feedback or make a complainthere.

I hope this information was useful to you. Please feel free to come back to us for further support.

There are many different ways to contact Family Rights Group.

• A free telephone advice line open Monday to Friday between 9.30am and 3pm (excluding Bank Holidays) on 0808 801 0366
• Easy-to-follow online information. Features include an A-Z, FAQs, films, ‘top tips’ and legal advice sheets;
• A webchat service where you can message an adviser online, who will help you find information and advice to support you.
• A web enquiry form – to help you submit an email and receive a reply within five working days.

Best wishes,
Suzie