Harmful sexual behaviour

[Snoopy doggy dog]

I don't know where to turn. Mythen 4 year old was at school. A 6 year old removed his clothing by force punching him to obtain compliance he then forced his finger in his anus. 2 peers were present laughing at him a ta watched and did nothing.

I contacted police they said as child cannot be criminally responsible they would record as penatrative assault but it was up to social care to safeguard. They later requested Strat meeting but refused

Contacted SARC they couldn't take referral without referral from police or social care requested Strat but refused X2

Contacted social care they somehow concluded this was a possibly fully clothed poke on the buttocks do just investigated me offering him no support through safety planning process.

2 days after the incident there is an entery that the director of children's services had taken legal advice and not to communicate with me re the incident. There is no anylisis or recording of anything to do with the incident after that just communication from me asking why noone is helping.

SAR from school showed some documentation where it states in and up his anus another not of a conversation with the GP where they say he felt it inside his anus.

They say that there is no need for any safeguarding response due to the age of the child who harmed but my child is traumatised. I am treated like a total nut which has traumatised me.

I complained but then was taken to icpc and told to withdraw my complaint if I continued with my complaint it would require child protection. I agreed but when I continued my complaint was threatened with further icpc.

Department of education just refer to la
Ofsted just refer to la

Noone helps.

Education internally excluded my son then off roled him nicked me asking about school places and no places were available where ever I applied

So he was sexually abused they intentionally and strategically minimised that abuse forced him out of education and bully me when I challenge this but there is nowhere to turn

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Snoopy doggy dog

Welcome to the parents’ discussion board. My name is Suzie. I am Family Rights Group’s online adviser.

I am sorry to hear about your family’s difficult situation. You state that you and your son are both traumatised following the incident that you describe happening to your son and how the statutory services responded to your concerns.

You feel that your complaints to children’s services about their response were silenced. You describe how your complaints resulted in children’s services’ initiating child protection procedures. You feel that you are treated as if you have mental health issues.

You have taken a range of steps to pursue your complaints about the situation including doing a subject access request to your son’s school and possibly children’s services. You have contacted the department for education and Ofsted. You explain how your son’s education has also been affected and he is now out of school.

I can understand how frustrating and stressful this situation must be.

In terms of your son’s education needs, you may wish to contact Child Law Advice (Education line) for specific advice about school and admissions processes. Their contact details are: Education line: 0300 330 5485, email and webchat.

You have already taken many of the usual steps to challenge children’s services. It seems they take the view that they have addressed your concerns about the incident and that continuing to pursue this makes them concerned about your behaviour i.e. they have held and threatened to hold a further child protection conference due to concerns that your son may be suffering harm. So, continuing to challenge in this way may escalate matters. Please bear this in mind when thinking through your options. It is a good idea not to make matters worse.

However, if you decide that you want to continue challenging children’s services about this then please see the information here about how to make a formal complaint. I know you have ‘complained’ but am not sure if you followed this process.

Once children’s services’ complaints process has been exhausted and if you want to take the matter further then the next step is to contact the Local Government Ombudsman or your local councillor or MP. Please see here for challenging decisions beyond children’s services.

It may be that you and your son may need to move forward from this upsetting situation. There are services who can provide a listening ear or befriending support e.g. Family Line, Family Lives, Samaritans.

I hope that this is helpful. Please see all our advice options here.

Best wishes

Suzie