Section 47 and bail

[Roadcharacter]

7th April I found messages on my husbands phone from two women I was so upset but didn’t want to ruin Easter . He then went out with his friends and I was so annoyed that he wasn’t prioritising his family first , he said he be an hour but never came back later that evening I messaged him I had enough and he needed to stay at his nans to collect his stuff he came back and I his his trainers I went out told his friend in the car about why I was telling him to leave this made him mad and he started ripping my understairs cupboard out smashing the shoe cupboard up , I went out to his friend and said get him out now or I will call the police he didn’t so I called the police . My 2 year old was asleep upstairs my 7 year old in garden and his 14th step daughter must had heard him smashing the cupboard up and came down stairs . As I’m outside on the phone his friend went in to get him. Next min my 14ye daughter came to front door crying covering her eye Sauk g he punched her and gave her a black eye . I repeated this to the 999 lady as she asked what she said I told her to go upstairs he then went past and said I didn’t hit you bloody wish I did 999 lady heard and chucked a trainer up the stairs then left . Police arrived my daughter came down her nose was bleeding (she gets nose bleeds with stress etc she had cream for it ) she was hyperventilating so they called an ambulance . While she was in ambulance my baby woke up so I was with her my 7 year old was still In garden with friend playing . She asked what had happened I told her , then they just had asked my 14ye diaghter . She said he punched her and strangled her . Fast forward he was on bail from then until now. However we broke that bail he came away with us to X for 13 yr olds birthday 2 weeks later they found out but nothing had been done . Forgot to say few days after incident the Sw came out and said she was holding a sec47 assessment which takes 45 days . I consented but not heard anything apart from me sending her photos of the girls and her relying thanks for the update catch up soon. We have only met her once . In this time he hasn’t seen girls since the X holiday (too scared of what could happen if he did) and middle child’s school called saying she been really emotional lately and acting out I passed this on to the pc in charge she said she would not it down. However she said did I witness the incident I said no and she said well we have you on body cam saying you did , I was in shock and said I can’t remember anything from that day I was in shock and I didn’t I was on the 999 call who told me not to go in. They said well that’s not good enough I said well I’m not going to lie and say I saw something I’ didn’t if I answered yes to the pc officer I was in a state of shock and all I can do is apologise . My diaghter hasn’t given any statements no one has. She has also said to them the day after she lied it didn’t happen he pushed her out the way because she wouldn’t move , she even said this to th Sw. Can someone let me know what’s going to happen? Will husband be charged ? Will he be able to see his kids again? And will he be able
To ever move back in? Everyone has said they was there normal life’s back. My step daughter has told them she wish she never made it up and didn’t think this would happen and sick of it now.

[Suzie, FRG Adviser]

Dear Roadcharacter

Welcome to the parents’ discussion board and thank you for your posts. My name is Suzie. I am Family Rights Group’s online adviser. I am sorry to hear about the difficulties that your family is experiencing.

I am sorry that I was not able to reply to your posts sooner. I will reply to all three of your posts here. Your situation is likely to have moved on since you posted.

Your family is involved in a child protection process. You have a lot of questions about the process and the possible outcomes. I cannot predict the outcome but will provide you with information and advice to help you understand the concerns and the process better. I hope this will be helpful.

Children’s services became involved due to an incident of domestic abuse in your home. Your daughter also alleged that your husband assaulted her. She has since provided a different account of what happened.

Children’s services may be concerned about the volatile incident that happened, the allegation and later retraction by your daughter that your husband assaulted her and the impact on her and her siblings of this.

Your husband was arrested and is on bail conditions. It is concerning that your husband broke his bail conditions and you allowed him to travel abroad with you and the children. You state that the professionals found out about this but nothing has been done. Since then your husband had not had contact with the children.

The child protection process is explained in detail here. This explains children’s services’ duties when undertaking a child protection investigation and the possible outcomes. It is very important not to minimise concerns and to find a way of working with children’s services. Your husband should be proactive too. He may find the Respect service helpful.

I can see that you want your family to remain a unit and for your husband to return. He will need to discuss with his criminal solicitor what to expect in terms of the police investigation, the current bail conditions, and his breach of the bail conditions.

You should be open and honest with children’s services about your wish for your husband to be able to return home. This will depend on a number of factors including a risk assessment, your and your husband’s ability to work to reduce risk, manage your relationship safely, prioritise the children’s needs and keep them safe. Your eldest daughter may need additional support.

I can see that you are worried that the social worker is not getting back to you in a timely way. This guide to working with a social worker provides tips on how to do communicate well and ask your social worker to communicate well with you.

Our FAQs on domestic abuse for mothers and for fathers may be helpful too. Our website also explains more about what happens when there are concerns about physical abuse and emotional abuse too.

You can find links to useful services here; you may find help and support for you and your children here.

I hope this helps.

Best wishes

Suzie